I have absolutely no desire to have sex or anything related. This was pretty much the scenario for the entire pregnancy. I think we've been intimate twice since I got pregnant. I feel bad for my husband though. He is very understanding but I can tell it is starting to take it's toll. I feel like I'm the only one that didn't get the 2nd trimester sex drive increase and now into the third tri I'm feeling so enormous that I can't even imagine doing anything... Any advice?
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Hey - I just wanted to let you know I have been in the same boat! First tri - nothing, didnt want him near me, but we did have sex a couple times because I felt bad for him. Second tri I (he) was hoping that would change but it really hasn't! I'm 22 weeks and I honestly can't see it changing - I feel bad for DH.
I've done other things for him - that makes him happy, haha.... Getting in the shower together is something to try too,
But I hear ya - no sex drive at all, I hope it comes back!
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i'm in the funk right now!
i was all about it in the first trimester (even tho that's when i was sick)... but these days? im ok without it... dh has been super understanding about it which helps a TON!anyway, juju that both our sex drives come back soon!
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You are definitely not the only one! I only had sex twice during my entire pregnancy. I had no sex drive, felt awful and then was just too big. Also, it was painful for me, I think do to my cervix sitting a little low? I'm not sure. But, I totally get how you're feeling. Now I'm 3 weeks postpartum and I hope that I'm more into it once I'm able to at 6 weeks.
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I didn't have a sex drive either. It was uncomfortable the entire pregnancy. I just sucked it up for DH's sake, but it definitely didn't happen as frequently.
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Same here. I am uncomfortable or in pain in some way shape or form every day since becoming pregnant. That's not exactly helpful in making me want to have sexy time. Hubs has also been really understanding about it which is great.
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same here
I feel awful for DH. I'm just really not in the mood, and the few days I am, my sciatica acts up. He doesn't complain, but I feel like I'm single-handedly killing our sex life! lol..
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same here... the few times we did it during the second trimester I didn't even enjoy it, which is unusual for me.
That plus the fact that I've had so many physical discomforts and scares this pregnancy leads to the fact that we haven't done it in a long time, and we won't be doing it the rest of the pregnancy... and then there's the 6 weeks post partum! I do feel bad for Wagon Sr.
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I did have the second trimester surge but it didn't last long. Maybe a month, then I was quickly back to not even caring about it. Mentally I miss it and tell him that I can't wait to have sex again but right now, it's not even on my radar. I have never felt less sexy.
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I am the same way, I just don't feel sexy these days. I know my DH loves me and things I look beautiful, but I just feel fat and bloated.
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Although I hope all of our sex drives come back soon, it's nice to hear that I'm not alone in this!
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I had no sex drive through my pregnancies and to be honest all the way through breast feeding. Except for when my dr said no intercourse (low lying placenta) I had sex once a week and believe me it was a chore but to be honest and I know this sounds maybe old fashioned but I think it's part of my job as a wife. My husband never complained and was very understanding but I tried my best to remember to take care of our marriage as well as my children
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you aren't the only one! It was the same way for me! We did it maybe twice during the entire pregnancy, and then maybe 3x's post partum. My son is 14 months now and I'm just starting to get my mojo/desire back. I was thinking it was bc of bfeeding and the no period thing...a few months after my first period is when things started to turn around for us.
I hope it's not that way for you but it could just be hormones!
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same here! Don't feel bad!! I am in the first few days of second trimester, & so far no big sexual desires! I hope you (& I) get our juju back soon!!
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Same here! I'm at 21 weeks and there has been NO surge in sex drive that me and DH were hoping for. First tri I was too scared of spotting. Now I do it to please the DH, but we do it so infrequently that I'm sore and it couldn't be less fun
Maybe the third trimester will bring the supposed sex drive.
i was all about it in the first trimester (even tho that's when i was sick)... but these days? im ok without it... dh has been super understanding about it which helps a TON!
I feel awful for DH. I'm just really not in the mood, and the few days I am, my sciatica acts up. He doesn't complain, but I feel like I'm single-handedly killing our sex life! lol..
That plus the fact that I've had so many physical discomforts and scares this pregnancy leads to the fact that we haven't done it in a long time, and we won't be doing it the rest of the pregnancy... and then there's the 6 weeks post partum! I do feel bad for Wagon Sr.
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