The more I complain, the better I feel. So.

Last week, my mom had a tummy tuck. Healing time is at least 6 weeks. In a month, my dad is having cosmetic eye surgery for the bags around his eyes. Healing time is 2 weeks. I’m due in 6 weeks. They both smoke, too, which will make healing take longer.

I’m highly doubtful that they will come up when the baby comes. It doesn’t seem that important to them anymore. They will say they are still healing, the 4-hour drive is too long and stressful, my dad doesn’t feel well (he’s had 2 heart attacks this past year), they can’t leave their (new) kitten, etc.

The reasons they couldn’t do the surgeries after the baby is here? Well, they wouldn’t be able to go on vacation in June (heaven forbid my mom not be able to wear a bikini!) or enjoy their summer on the boat and play in the lake (they’re retired). I sarcastically told my dad that I hope I don’t have the baby a little early (which I’m expecting…I hope to go to Crossfit one morning and go into labor that night, lol) and he goes, “yeah, well, I’m scheduled to have my eyes done in a month…I can’t do it later because I can’t really go out in the sun for 3-4 months, and the doctor is giving me a big discount because of your mom’s surgeries, too”. Apparently he's also having a lower face lift in October. The only reason they can't do it now is because of his heart medication and his cardiologist wants him on it for 9 more months

I’m not sure, in what world, this timing seemed ideal. On top of it all, they have not reassured me at all that they will come in March or that it is a priority of any sort. It USED to be. Now it’s very, “well, we’ll see how we feel, we are healing, you know”.

This is their first grandchild.

I’m hurt, I’m angry, and I can’t even wrap my brain around why they thought this was good timing. I feel like they're being so insanely selfish, I can't even think straight. And on top of it all, they don’t want anyone to know they are having work done. I'm sure they are having trouble with being "grandparents' and being old (they're 55 and 60).

What happens when they don’t come up and visit after I have the baby, yet all of DH's family is there and wondering where my folks are? I won't lie to save them face. Ugh. This is such bullshit.