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I got pregnant 3 days after DD turned 1. I worried about being able to love my 2nd the same, but once I held my son in my arms I had an overwhelming rush of love wash over me.
This is weird, but I actually felt more love for him than my toddler for the first few days. Maybe because he was a helpless newborn? I have no idea. I love my kids the same now though.

Anyway, the first few weeks/months weren't too bad because all my newborn did was eat, sleep, poo/pee. He's still a good sleeper and a chill baby so taking care of 2 hasn't been bad at all. I had help for a month after I gave birth so it really helped with the transition from 1 to 2.

I know it's hard not to worry, but everything ends up working out!
My kids are 4 months and 25 months old, so they have different needs, but I don't think either lacks attention.

@Mrsbells: I worried about the same things! I've been writing posts about lack of time lately because life definitely is busier with two, but I was just telling my husband over the weekend how much I LOVE having two, and that our family feels so full and complete with them both here. We've found a good rhythm that works for us, and I know you'll find your groove too.

I love both my children soo much, and it doesn't feel like my love is divided in any way, rather, it feels like it expanded to encompass the love I have for them both.

Unfortunately, the newborn does get less attention overall than my first did when she was at that age just because I now have a toddler to take care of. I can't do everything according to what's best for the baby all the time the way I was able to with one child - it's difficult to be chained to the house for naps or bedtime when you have a toddler too that has needs and wants to be outside at certain times. I've learned to be more flexible and go with the flow about a lot of things, and I stress less too. But honestly, the newborn doesn't know any better - this has been his way of life since day one.

When I'm with both of them, sometimes the toddler has to wait on me to finish whatever I'm doing with the newborn (usually nursing)... and other times the newborn has to wait because I'm tending to the toddlers' needs. I think a little bit of waiting and learning that someone else exists outside of them is good for them! Whenever I tell my toddler to wait, I also make sure she sees the times that I make my newborn wait too. It sounds silly, but sometimes I'll tell my newborn... "please wait, mommy is helping Noelle right now". I'm very conscious of making sure my toddler doesn't feel shafted.

It feels like we grew into becoming a family of four so naturally. Like @chopsuey119 said, everything will work itself out! The anticipation is usually scarier than reality. I found the transition from 1-2 easier than the transition from 0-1.

There is totally some attention sharing that goes on, but one of the coolest things I have seen my daughter become is a big sister. She is so attentive and loving and protective. And, it is so cool watching my son be a little brother. He loves his sister in a way that is different than how he feels about me or DH.

Is it busy? YUP! Do they have to share my time? Sure. Do I prefer one over the other, no way. They are so different and son wonderful and I love each of them more and more each day.

I also feel like I have gotten to enjoy my son grow up a little more, because I wasn't as worried about the next milestone.

I love being a parent to more than one child.

It is only natural that both kids get less attention than if you only had one, but I think this is great for them. Whether you intend to do it or not, only children are spoiled with lots of undivided attention only because there's not always a reason to divide it. (I am an only child myself)

Do I have time for everything? No, of course not. But you look for more efficient ways of doing things and the important things still get done.

I love having two kids and it's totally worth it. I honestly do not prefer one child over the other at all.