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I'm so happy for you! I really hate to tell you this but I had a hard time enjoying my pregnancy after my m/c. I was a nervous wreck the whole time. But I also had numerous spotting issues, and had pre term labor at 26 weeks. So it was tough not to stress. That being said I had a perfectly healthy full term baby and there's every reason to believe you will too!

Congrats!

I have no advice b/c I was not calm! Especially the first couple of weeks before I had an U/S, I was sooo worried. Then I started getting morning sickness and we saw a heartbeat and that eased my worries a little, but they never completely went away. Just remember it's all out of your control! Good luck to you and I wish you a happy & healthy 9 months!

I didn't stay calm :(. I'm sorry but it was really hard to be positive and happy about my current pregnancy. Eventually I had to just let myself get excited, it was tough.

The early u/s helped. And every time I got freaked I went to my midwife to hear the heartbeat.

@Ash: Congratulations!

It's hard. The only thing that eased my mind was getting frequent ultrasounds...And the reason I got early/frequent US was bc I had a SCH and had spotting and it had to be monitored. So that was a source of stress in itself. I wish I could have just relaxed, but I needed proof she was still alive and well in there. I had an ultrasound most weeks in the first tri, and I STILL used a doppler to get me from one US to the next!

Wishing you a VERY HEALTHY pregnancy!

My mom told me worrying wasn't going to change anything. I told her I was probably going to be reserved until we were past 20 weeks, which is when we found out there was no more heartbeat. She told me that wasn't being good to me or the baby. I needed to be happy about being pregnant again. Sure, there are scary things, but nothing in life is guaranteed. It really stuck with me and has made me feel a little better about everything. She's gone through this before too. She delivered my brother, healthy and alive, then we lost him in a surgery afterwards. My parents went on to have another baby after that. Knowing what I know now, they were so brave. So, I tend to listen to her when she gives advice on this sort of thing. I don't want to be scared the whole time. I want to be happy about it. Right now I'm feeling so crappy in this pregnancy, there is no way I can compare it to my other one.

I think @Jennimac: says it best. Worrying isn't good for you or the baby ( I know, easier said than done) and there are no guarantees in life.
Some things to consider for reassurance:
early blood work. It's still debatable if low progesterone causes mc, but I found out mine was low at 6w, and started supplements immediately.
Doppler. You can buy one and listen to the hb at home. Personally this would have driven me nuts and become an obsession, but I know it's really reassuring for some.

Congrats on your BFP, wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months.

Congrats!!!

One day at a time, that's all!

Congrats!! After 2 m/c, I had a really hard time getting excited. I did stay in a positive state of mind (like @Jennimac said). The day I got my BFP, I told DH that we might as well think positive because being negative about it wasn't going to do any of us any good. It helped, but I still felt very cautious during the first half of the pregnancy. I never had any strong pregnancy symptoms which was a blessing and a curse - even though my OB says the "worse the symptoms, the stronger the pregnancy" adage is an old wives tale, I know that morning sickness would have made it feel more real to me.

Anyways, once I could feel baby move, things turned around and I was able to really enjoy being pregnant.

Best of luck to you!!

I didn't really relax until we did an amnio and got ok results back. And then after that, seeing everything look ok at the 20 week ultrasound was another big reassurance.
In the early days, my OB office was really cool about seeing me early (they let me come in right away to confirm) and fairly often, to make sure things were progressing. I think I had an ultrasound at 5 weeks, 7 weeks, 10 weeks, 12 weeks, and then the amnio at 15 or 16.

No experience, but I'm a big worry and found this quote which helps me sometimes.. it goes something like:

If you worry about the worst case scenario, and it actually happens, you've lived through it twice. If it never happens, you've wasted your time.

Happy and healthy 9 months to you!

Bumping this, because holy cow, is this hard!

I had an early miscarriage in April and am now 5 weeks with this little one. I'm trying to enjoy being pregnant, but every little twinge makes me worry. I had started to calm down, but we had a scare earlier this week with this little one. Amazingly, the little miracle is still here! We're in shock, but now it's got my worry radar up again.

I'm finding that focusing on the baby, as opposed to the pregnancy, is helping. Not planning, but just getting excited to do things, like go for walks in the park. I know that nothing is certain yet, since it's still so early, but for me, there's no point in pretending I'm not already 100% attached to this baby. So I'm trying to enjoy it while I can. Easier said than done.

Anyone else have thoughts?

Just wanted to say congrats and I know it's hard to stay calm. I had an early mc and then got my bfp two cycles after and now have a healthy baby boy. Deep breathing helped me in the beginning!

Congrats!!

It is very hard not to worry, I totally understand. I got pregnant 3 months after my mc and after the initial excitement set in, I was very nervous. I tried to keep thinking positively, and told myself that there was a much better chance of everything going well, than going wrong. I was fortunate enough to have early scans at 7 and 9 weeks so seeing the heart beat was reassuring. My DH and I also didn't talk about it too much until after 12 weeks. I tried to keep busy for the first few months to help time pass, because it goes sooooooo slowly at first.

Take each day one day at a time and maybe tell yourself "today I'm pregnant" and send lots of good thoughts towards your baby. Oh yeah, I always talked to my baby at night before bed in those first few weeks. I'd rub my belly and say "I am so glad you're here, please stick with me, we love you so much already." Maybe I'm a little weird