Tonight I took my husband on a movie date to a new theater. He uses a wheelchair, therefore he needs my assistance navigating into the restroom and handling his business when he's in there.

I always look for "family" or single stall unisex restrooms when we're out, but those aren't very common in most places. When I need to, I take him into the ladies room, escort him into the stall, and stay with him til he's done.

I asked a staff member if there was a family restroom at the theater and was told it was upstairs, an elevator ride away. My husband said he had to go and I always worry that he may have some urgency, so I decided just to take him into the ladies room because it was close by.

DH did his thing and while I was helping him wash his hands, I could hear a woman outside the restroom complaining to an employee that there was (gasp!) a man in the ladies room. The employee came in to check and when she saw me and DH she said he wasn't supposed to be in there and there was a restroom for us upstairs. I asked if there was a law against what we were doing (which I'm pretty sure there isn't) and she backed off.

I was so offended and upset by this rudeness that I returned to the theater with tears in my eyes. I honestly feel like if some people could live a day in our shoes they would never bother us about something so trivial.

So let me ask you, Bees, would it bother you to see a disabled man, escorted by a woman in the ladies room? He's my husband, not some kind of pervert. To me, this is no different than taking a male child into the ladies room. Do you think I should chance an even more awkward situation by taking him into the men's room?