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We did this. We were at a friends house for a house warming and putting our son down (he was 18 months old) in a pack and play in their room. There was a gun on the nightstand. My husband just asked if it was unloaded and they (the host and my husband) double checked it. My son had never gotten out of his pack and play and showed no possibility of getting out that night but they still checked. There was no issue with doing that at all by the host. If we hadn't seen it, we probably wouldn't have thought to ask about it though. Even though I knew they had guns etc.
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I actually asked a friend today. I saw what seemed to be a gun safe within reach of my LO, and I realized I should probably start asking this question.
She told me that her hubs had a gun but it was locked in a safe in her bedroom. That was good enough for me for today. I need to think about my stance moving forward.
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@looch: I think you absolutely can know the parents of your elementary school child's friends and those parents' relevant situations. My mom was a single working mom who raised me and my sister and she knew all of the parents of our friends when we were little. There were a few friends whose houses I was not allowed to visit. I went to a fairly normal sized public school as well.
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I hate this situation. All the grandparents in our LO's life have guns....as in plural. I don't have any issue with gun ownership but DH and I have opted not to have them until our kid/kids are older and we party less (ok, we actually never party, but before we have kids, partying was our reason not to have guns). I feel like I would have offended my family to ask them this question.
My cousin never got to spend the night at our house when she was a kid because we had guns!
When I was a little girl my aunt and uncle told us to NEVER touch the third drawer down in my aunt's tall jewelry cabinet. I think I was in my 20s before I realized what that was all about.
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@MrsMcD: let's see when we get there. I am a pretty good judge of character and I generally know who I want to include in my circle or not. I just find it difficult now to know the 8 sets of parents in my son's daycare class that changes regularly as kids age in and out.
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I wouldn't have my feelings hurt by any of it. It's a fairly serious issue, and I wouldn't blame a parent or caregiver for being proactive and wanting that information. Ours are in a locked safe in the office, which is several hundred feet away from the main house. Oddly enough, though, I'm not sure how comfortable I would feel asking the same question of someone else. I do think most of the people we associate with (which isn't that many) I am aware of whether or not they are gun owners and if they are, the general level of "security" they have going on.
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@Mrs. Sketchbook: We'll have to ask my IL's to do a good sweep as well to make sure everything is in its proper (and secured) place. They like to keep hunting rifles in the closets, and once LO is older, she'll go looking.
Even if they don't think so, I know how inquisitive and sneaky kids can be…you should have seen my mother's face when we were chatting a year or two ago and my brothers mentioned taking out and shooting outside with the small handgun in her second drawer when we were younger (elementary). Panties stop no one! She was horrified about all the gun and weapon stories we had, they truly thought we didn't know where they were or how to use them.
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@looch: Oh I see the issue with day care. But in elementary school I assume your child will be in the same place with the same kids for years. But under any circumstance, I cannot imagine sending my child to a house supervised by people I do not know well enough to trust.
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