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We just found out that we're expecting our third girl.. and the comments have already started coming. After the years and tears trying to get (and stay) pregnant, healthy babes in arms are all we want. I just get so frustrated when people assume we're disappointed.. I am FAR from disappointed!

Yep. I have 2 girls and am pregnant with a boy. I actually wanted another girl so the comments annoy me a little more. I haven’t come back with anything particularly witty. I love my girls! I’m actually scared to be a boy mom. Plus their bond is soo amazing. On the bright side, every pregnancy I’ve had people guess I’m carrying a boy and this time I can tell them they’re right and it’s a much less annoying interaction.

I have two boys and we got that - “oh, are you going to try for another one to get a girl?” I just said “no, I’m excited to have brothers” and left it at that but it’s so weird. They’re not trading cards, you don’t need one of each!

Mom of 2 boys and we are definitely done. My 12yo niece told me this weekend we should have another maybe it would be a girl.

People have asked if we are going to have a third and I know some of them wonder if we want a girl. Two is good for us but if we had a third another boy would be easier. I love having two boys!

I actually know someone who really wanted a girl and she had 6 boys!

@jaguar: I have two sisters and it is awesome!

@bees_knees: Just chiming in to say thank you for posting this and bringing it to my attention. I am definitely one of those people who say "Darn!" or something at the thought of someone having another girl or boy when they already have girls or boys. I didn't even realize that this could be offensive and totally don't mean any harm when saying it but I see your point and am glad you pointed it out!! I will be aware of this from now on!

Congrats to your growing family!!

@bees_knees: my mom works for a retirement community... every time I take my two girls there, there’s a senior lady who practically yells “tell your husband to aim to the right next time and give you a boy!!” First of all, mind your own business. Secondly, I don’t NEED a boy and am happy with girls. Third, come up with a new joke, lady! ..... I just laugh and ignore her.

Mama to three girls here - we constantly get comments from strangers about if we're going for the boy. My typical reply is that at this point, I pretty much figure that if we go for #4, I'll have twin girls! Like you, we were definitely offered sympathy when #3 was a girl - we even got teased by the hospital lactation consultant because there's a word in Spanish (chanclatero - literally "slipper maker") for men who only produce daughters, and were told to give up unless we wanted a dozen kids!

If it makes you feel any better, my girls have heard it all and are none the worse for it - they happily will chime in along the lines of ("Eww, why would we want a BROTHER" or "Three kids is enough, our family is DONE!"

I was pregnant with our second last summer and didn't know the gender. We already have a girl and someone at the pool actually asked if we'd go for a third if we didn't get a boy and had another girl. Ummm no. We just wanted a second baby regardless of the gender. I actually wanted another girl but we got a boy instead We knew two was our number and that was it. IDK why people are so obsessed with having a boy and a girl.

Yes! It's so frustrating. We recently found out our 2nd is of the opposite sex so we keep getting comments about. "oh yay! you're done" or "factory is closed" or asking whether my husband is getting a vasectomy. I'm like WTF?

I really want a 3rd and that was regardless of the sex of #2 so it grinds my gears when people say those comments, especially since my husband is not 100% on board with #2 (he wants to wait to see how we adapt to 2 kids first)

I'm dreading telling people I'm pregnant with #3 because I'm certain there will be commentary...whether about gender or number of children or whatever. Last time, when we revealed we were having a second girl, my own mother said "that's okay, you can try for a boy next time around". WTAF?

Like, why is it so hard for people to just say "congrats!" and then keep their mouths shut?

@PinkElephant: I love your girls. My oldest is the same!

I have two girls so of course heard while I was pregnant how I should try for a boy next “for my husband”. Whatever.

BUT I will say, positive comments in either direction don’t bother me. Like, oh you’re having a second girl? That’s so great, it’s so great to have sisters! Or, oh one of each, how wonderful. As we all know there are plusses and minuses to both. I never take offense to someone who says it’s great my girls have a sister. I do take offense to someone implying that there is something missing.

UGGHHHHHH.... i'm sorry, that is really annoying. I have 2 boys and get comments about "trying for that girl" - i'm like, ummm, no thanks. I don't NEED a girl to feel like my family is complete.

Instead of getting mad I typically think people just spout out boilerplate-nothing-chit -chat and chalk it up to that.

Hey fellow November mama! Our first two are girls, and we really wanted girls each time. I was thrilled when our second was born because I liked the idea of sisters. I’m sure people who don’t know us assume we are having a third to try for a boy, but that’s not the case at all. I’m one of three and my family just doesn’t feel complete with two. My husband was telling a coworker how much he’d love a third girl and his coworker was shocked.

@bees_knees: I have two wonderful boys and I get this all the time! People will ask coyly about a third...and then jump on the “hopefully it could maybe be a GIRL!” And then the awkwardness sets in as it happens, we aren’t ready to close the door on a third baby, and I would genuinely be happy with either another boy, or a girl! But people will go crazy in the next pregnancy with their golden comments, so I am already planning on keeping it quiet or maybe even not finding out just so I can shut down those conversations. Regardless of how well-meaning people are when they share their opinions on how loud/full of boys my house will be in the future, I don’t care for those comments and think they should keep them to themselves!

My first was a girl and my second was a boy. I initially wanted two girls because I'm only having two kids, and I have a very close relationship with my little sister. Everyone makes the comment that I have the perfect family. Or they assume that I"m done because I got one of each. I reply that I would have been done regardless of gender as I only wanted two kids. It's just a bit odd? I don't know, it's kind of annoying, but less annoying than people asking me when I'm due. I'm not, I'm six months post partum >:( On the flip side, I had a friend in highschool and she had 4 sisters. The mom desperately wanted a son, and even tricked her husband into having their 5th baby to try to get a son. So maybe this was more common 30 years ago???