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@looch: I think it might make him look bad and upset the people he is working for, but I don't think it is binding in any way. The position is just funded for 2 years.
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@CakeLady: I would basically say that upfront, then, that he's willing to try it out for a few months, say 3, and if it doesn't work out, no hard feelings on either end. If the museum says no, you have your answer.
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I was a "no way" vote after reading your original post, and with the additional info in the comments I am a "SERIOUSLY NO WAY" vote now. Sad for your DH because I work in a niche job (not quite to this extent) but that's too much change for a temporary position which I am guessing might be grant-funded so probably even less stable?
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@peachykeen: There is a possibility that another job could come up in our area, and he is very well respected and known here, but it is hard to know when. I am pretty open to moving at some point but I'd like it to be for a longer term opportunity and to a place we are a little more excited about.
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@Finfan: It's either funded by a grant or a donor. He had grant funded position in the past and the money ran out and he lost his job
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I just want to say thank you so much to everyone who weighed in. I really appreciate all of your varied perspectives and suggestions. It is such a difficult spot to be in and it is so nice to have such a supportive place to go for advice.
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So I'm going to say I think this is a bad idea, and I would not be on board with my husband doing this. I would possibly consider it if the position was permanent. But there's no way I'd root up our lives for a job that may end in 2 years. Especially not if I was the breadwinner.
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I would not make that move personally, but I'm surprised it's even on the table for your husband knowing the facts. If his job is that niche that he cannot find steady employment outside grant funded positions and you can support your family in your current city, would it be better for him to use this time to switch careers or explore more schooling or a different track in the same field? It may be better in the long run to invest in his career for a while, while keeping the rest of your home life stable. Especially since your son is so young and your mom is around to help. I'd encourage him in that direction more.
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I'd encourage him to make whatever decision he wanted job wise. But, I would stay in my house and job and mice apart while he tried the new role out and you looked for new jobs in the area. I'd want him to continue looking for other jobs as well m.
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GO!!!
Looking for a job that long is so tough. Anyone who has been miserable in a job and has felt stuck knows just how awful it feels.
Two years actually sounds like a long time to me, and like you said, it might open up other opportunities for him. There's just no telling.
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*big hugs* This does sound like a tough choice!! I'm actually not sure what I would do. It sounds like your husband would be happy with this move but you wouldn't. There must be some sort of compromise where both are generally happy. Hopefully?
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I wanted to share an update since so many of you had great advice and suggestions - and were so supportive.
After lots of discussion we decided that we couldn't move for a 2 year commitment, so DH sent a very thoughtful email saying that the job was exactly what he was looking for but that he couldn't do it for such a short commitment from them. They said they'd "see what they could do." We just found out that they were able to make the position permanent - and they offered a little more money and a relocation allowance.
I think we will take the offer more likely than not. I am going to have some serious sorting out to do with my own career and making the transition, but I think this is something we need to do.
I'll have to start some new threads about long distance moves, living in Atlanta, and asking your boss about working remotely... feeling pretty overwhelmed.
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@CakeLady: wow, they really stepped up!!
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@snowjewelz: I was pretty shocked especially given everything I know and have heard about non-profit organizations. I guess this is proof that it never hurts to ask...
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@CakeLady: Seriously!! I mean, it's still a lot of stress and unknown for you, but at least you know you're not moving in vain and the extra $ will help!
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@CakeLady: Oh my gosh, that's amazing!!! Congrats to your husband!
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@CakeLady: wow!!! Congrats!
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@CakeLady: wow, so happy to see your update! Good luck!
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@snowjewelz: @avivoca: @Mamaof2: @Mama Bird: Thank you!
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Congrats!!!
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@CakeLady: That's amazing!
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Congrats! This is very exciting for your family. I hope the transition goes smoothly for you all!
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@CakeLady: Oh my goodness!!! That is SO amazing! It will be a huge relief to know that it is permanent.
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@CakeLady: That's a great resolution! I'm glad it worked out.
I work 90% remotely and strongly suggest you ask your boss about it. What has worked in our office for people in similar situations is once a month you come for 3 days. You fly in first thing Tuesday morning and fly out late Thursday night. You work remotely the rest of the time.
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Sounds amazing, and definitely a sign that you should jump on the opportunity!!!
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@Pollywog: Thank you for sharing your remote work setup! I am planning to put together a proposal to discuss with my boss and I was thinking it would be something along those lines - coming in for 3 days 1-2 times a month on a regular schedule. Out of curiosity - do remote employees pay for their own travel when they come in or does work cover it?
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@CakeLady: My agency pays for their travel unless they're in town for another reason. So if you're coming up to see Grandma for the weekend, you might work Friday, Monday, Tuesday and not charge the flight. We do this because my agency is broke.
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@CakeLady: Congratulations!
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@CakeLady: what an awesome reply! Congrats and good luck!
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That's so great! Congrats!
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@CakeLady: WOW thats wonderful! Thanks so much for the update. Wishing you the best!
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