The thread on what people 'let go' after having a baby got me wondering, it seems like a lot of relationships understandably take a bit of a hit after a baby, so moms of two or more, do you think having a second Baby was easier or harder on your relationship than the first?
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Hurmm.. I'd say easier?
Taking care of the baby wasnt as stressful as the first time around, and the transition from 1-2 was pretty smooth. -
I have to say harder. Our first son was 2.5 yrs old when our 2nd came. By that time, our first son was pretty easy and having nights off (switching off) was possible and not overwhelming. There was time to play, cook dinner, and after putting LO to bed, there was an hour or two where my DH and I could do with what we wanted - spend time together, watch shows, etc.
Now with LO2, its more difficult. I admit that the things that used to stress me out with my first son are not there, there is still no real "break" with two kids. One of us is always watching one or both...LO2 is 4 months now and I can see things getting a little easier from here on out...but the past month or two (after LO2 grew out of the sleepy phase) were difficult, especially naps and nighttime sleep.
DH and I haven't spent quality time together in a while...hopefully that will change as time goes on.
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I think easier. The transition from 0-1 was harder than 1-2 for us. Both kids sleep early so we have quality time to ourselves at night even though we rarely go out. We prefer to stay home, though!
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I think easier, we already had a system and knew how to support one another through the newborn phase. It makes it harder to go out (well more expensive) but it wasn't as difficult as going from 0 to 1 kid.
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Easier but harder to go on dates so we have come to terms with it!
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@autumnlove: agreed!
I really think having #2 was easier on our relationship than having #1. But mine are also 15 months apart only, so we were still in 'baby mode'. Don't know if that makes a difference. But finding sitting for 2 has been tough
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@sarbear: @autumnlove: totally agree!
easier on relationship in that we already knew what to expect with the newborn days, but it was harder to go on date nights. our QT was mostly just at home every night after the kids went down (if we didn't still have work to do, or we weren't tired too much to just sleep early ourselves!).
After #2 turned 2 yo though, it definitely became easier to leave them with a sitter. 2 over 2 is nice!
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