Or are you never going back?
Our plan now is to have baby #2 in a couple of years, so I probably won't go back until he or she is in school .... as long as we're ok financially. But I wish I never had to go back!
Or are you never going back?
Our plan now is to have baby #2 in a couple of years, so I probably won't go back until he or she is in school .... as long as we're ok financially. But I wish I never had to go back!
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
I probably won't go back. We're planning/hoping to have another 1-3 kids so I'll have my hands full. I also want to stay home until they go to college. Once they're school aged I'll probably find a part time gig or just volunteer.
apricot / 498 posts
I have a volunteer gig also right now and I do about 5 ours a week of work but I don't think I'll ever really go back to work. I wasn't a big fan of office work to start with!
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
@chopsuey119: that sounds awesome! I'd love to stay home with my kids for that long ..
but I know it depends on what we can afford. I would love to be able to volunteer at the elementary school and not have to worry about work taking my time away from the kids.
@Venice4504: when did you start volunteering? Now I don't have time but would love to be able to do it in the future.
pomegranate / 3980 posts
I don't think I will but after kids are in school I want to go to school for photography and after that ill probably just do that for fun
clementine / 958 posts
I plan to go back once LO and any future babies are in elementary school. I'll probably do contract work so that I can be home in the summers for the most part.
honeydew / 7917 posts
I ask myself that question a lot these days. I graduated college, couldn't find a job, got married, and had a baby. I only worked for a year between graduating and starting a family, and it was the crappiest job ever. Since I have never had a real job, I don't know if I could ever make use of my degree (business) even if I wanted to.
I would love to stay at home for as long as possible if it is financially feasible. But the guilt... it's something that I haven't been able to get past just quite yet, and my LO is 8 months old. I only have the support of my husband, and I feel disapproval from a lot of family members. In a society where working mothers is the norm, I get looked down upon. I think I would go back to work to make everyone around me happy and feel less guilty about the situation.
persimmon / 1341 posts
We plan to have me stay home at least until they kids are in school. If I don't homeschool I will want to be very involved in their school which means not working as long as it's financially possible for us. We've worked really hard at building our savings now and buying a house we can easily payoff on one income as well as paying cash for vehicles that way we can live off my husband's decent income. If anything happens with his job though I will probably have to go back sooner than we'd like so I will always make sure to keep my teaching license current.
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
@yin: that's awful! My mom stayed home with us so she understands my desire to be a sahm. I do have friends who have given me crap for it though. They aren't married, or moms so the:couldn't possibly understand, their focus right now is on their career. They don't understand how my family is more important to me than my job. Plus it also came out that they're jealous that I don't have to work. However, they have no clue how much work it is to take care of a baby!
I pretty much told them it's my life, and as long as my husband and I agree on how we live it that's all that matters. And as my friends they should want me to be happy, and as long as I am they have no reason not to support me in my decision.
honeydew / 7917 posts
@artbee: The family members who give me crap for it are the ones who were sahm themselves when their kids were young. That makes no sense to me. I get blamed for not putting my LO in daycare because they think he needs the social interaction and not to be so attached to mommy. Argh. Also Asian families can be so cruel. It makes it that much harder when there is no support.
cherry / 230 posts
I work part-time in the evenings, that way my SO can stay home with the kids, and we don't have to pay for daycare/sitter. But when the youngest (currently 3y/o) is old enough to start kindergarten, I'll most likely delve back into the work-force full-time.
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
@yin: I've also had people tell me that my kid should be in day care for socialization. 1. You don't have to be in daycare all day long to socialize, there are such things as play dates and 2. Since when is a good bond between mommy and baby bad?
GOLD / olive / 65 posts
I'd like to get back to working for myself once my kiddos are all in school full time. I don't think I could return to the corporate world. @yin, I hear you. And it's true, kids don't need daycare to socialize. Little ones are easily over-stimulated all the way up to age 7 or 8! Having some opportunities to play with other kids here and there is all they need when young. The youngest children flourish in their home settings while learning directly from a parent through housework and one-to-one play. There is plenty of time for socializing and other things (part of what school is about) later on, so there's no need to feel pressure for socialization.
cantaloupe / 6669 posts
Who knows how I will feel when we have a baby, but I want to become a part-time WAHM when the baby is 6 months or so, and transition back to full-time as soon as all our kids are in school/preschool. My mom never went back, and if that's right for you that's awesome, but I really want to continue my career, and my DH doesn't really want me to stay home indefinitely.
honeydew / 7968 posts
i'll probably go at least part-time when my kids go to school. i will probably be bored otherwise! unless i pick up some cool hobbies that i won't need to go back to work.
pomegranate / 3706 posts
I'm planning on being more of a WAHM--I started a company I do from home, on my own time, so I most likely won't ever go back to working 8-5 for someone else, outside the home. I actually started my business about a year and a half ago, so that when I did have children, I could have something to foster my creativity and skills, while allowing me to be home with them.
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
I am looking forward to getting back to work in the next year or so. I have been a SAH mom for a year now and while it's fulfilling, I've realized I need more balance.
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