DH and I have been talking seriously about starting to TTC #2 in a month or so. We are both really nervous about the change that that would mean. It seems like there's a big difference between one kid and two. I'll be 37 in the fall so I don't want to wait much longer if we are going to, but I'm having a really hard time pulling the trigger. I always thought I wanted two kids and DH did too. But now it seems kind of crazy. I keep wavering back-and-forth. Was it hard for you to make the decision to go ahead and have number two? Any words of encouragement?
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In the next month, we're pulling the trigger on it. It's weird right now. I actually feel ready for it. Months ago, I didn't feel ready for it at all. We also don't want a lot of years between LO and a sibling as well as my age being a factor too.
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I have always known that I wanted more than one child, but it's been very hard for me to pull the trigger and actually TTC. I had to just take a deep breath and go for it. Now I'm 17 weeks pregnant with #2 and I'm still scared! Grateful and excited but scared
My mom (mother of 3) told me that if I wait until I feel totally ready we will never have more kids. I definitely think she was right.
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@cascademom: I guess we're just going to do it. But I have to say that every time I feel like yes I'm ready then I have second thoughts...
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@travellingbee: I felt that way for awhile, but my mindset has changed and gotten better about it.
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Hubs and I are definitely both scared and nervous, but we just decided to throw caution to the wind and go for it! Now that I'm pregnant, I'm scared but also really excited!
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@travellingbee: I think that is very common. You'll have 9m to mentally prepare
But then that might be what I currently tell myself 
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@travellingbee: I think I'm in the same boat. I get cold feet on #2 all the time.
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I felt a little like you did, but now that we have 2 I have to say it's not too much different... (just my experience, though! I know everyone has a different one!)
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No experience of my own to share yet but I've never heard anyone say, "You know, I really wish we'd had one less," and often hear folks in their 50s/60s and above saying they wished they'd had one more!
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i grew-up an only child and knew that i always wanted more than one kid. plus with our parents getting older we decided to just let what happens, happen!
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we know we want to do it, but timing is important to me, so that means we aren't starting TTC #2 until early 2015. DH would start now, but i'm too on edge about our financial status and prefer some time to solidify it!
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I was nervous too. But now that we're on the third cycle I've spent quite a few months (including the time before) thinking about it and all the hard parts will still be there but we just really want LO to have a sibling and feel that we can do this and our family will be complete with 2. I still feel nervous about some things and I think that's normal!
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