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Is the second child a gift to the first?

  1. dolphin

    pomegranate / 3768 posts

    Yes! I think siblings are the best gift to each other. That's the main reason we decided to have a third. Seeing the growing bond between our first two is the best so that motivated us to want to add another to share their love! And yes, I know that there is no guarantee that they will be best friends when they grow up but at least I'm giving them a chance to build that strong friendship and no matter what they can count on each other for life.

  2. Mrs. Champagne

    coconut / 8481 posts

    My son is 3 and cannot stand his 9 month old sister (for the most part).

    Eventually, I am sure they will be happy to have each other.

    My siblings and I fought alllllllll (literally allllll) the time growing up. We aren't super close now, but I'm glad I have people besides myself that aren't my parents that are in my family, if that makes sense. I can't imagine having no siblings.

  3. Anagram

    eggplant / 11706 posts

    Nope. That's my short answer. =)

    It's too much of a blanket statement. I mean, there are so many really toxic and abusive families out there, even to extremes where one siblings will sexually abuse another. On the other hand, you can have a really lovely relationship with a sibling. Since nothing is guaranteed, I would just say my answer is no, and if siblings end up getting along in adulthood, that's just an extra icing on the cake.

  4. LemonJack

    persimmon / 1117 posts

    I don't think I've thought of it that way before, but I guess I agree with her. I appreciate having my siblings so much as an adult. We are all very different, but there are no other people in the world who truly understand my childhood (and in a sense, a part of me) in the way they do.

  5. pinkcupcake

    cantaloupe / 6751 posts

    No, and I think it's kinda offensive to say so. The second child is their own individual, not a gift / playmate to someone else.

    I love my brothers and treasure our relationship. I can't imagine my life without them and I am so glad to have them but they were not a "gift" to me

  6. Mrs.Panda

    nectarine / 2358 posts

    I have a 2 year old Q, as well

    We want to have another very much, but I do worry about how it will impact my Q. That said, I loved having siblings growing up and wouldn't trade it for the world!

  7. Alba4

    nectarine / 2951 posts

    I would never phrase it like that. We wanted 2 kids, but I do think having a sibling is pretty awesome. Both my husband and I got along very well with our siblings and wanted a similar experience for our children.

    It has been so fun seeing my older son grow to love his baby brother. They have a special bond already and I can't wait to see their friendship develop as they grow.

  8. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    My sister and I are 8 years apart (I'm older) and she was for sure a gift to me!

  9. snowjewelz

    wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts

    I mean, it's not true in ALL cases...

    In my life... Yes. My sister is 7 years younger but am I thankful that she did come along!

    In DH's life... Also absolutely. There are 3 of them and they've all gone through really hard stuff and supported each other through it. Esp since DH doesn't have a lot of friends; so family is really his major support system

    For my DD's, I sure do hope that they will be gifts to each other for the rest of their lives!


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