The transition to two kids isn't going how I expected... I obviously was nervous and anticipated tough times with LO1 but I didn't expect it to be as difficult as it is on our marriage.

As background.... after LO1 was born, there was a lot of resentment and fights about the amount of sleep we were each getting, who was doing what, etc. It seemed to subside shortly after 6 months though to be honest we've always been bad about keeping score and being resentful (perhaps its mostly me; but I HATE feeling like I'm carrying more of the weight and hate having to ask DH for help doing things that are both of our responsibilities).

With LO2 (a little over 2 months old), I thought it would be easier for some reason. We've already done this, right?! Well, the transition was easy for me (minus the exhaustion) but it hasn't been for DH. He seems short tempered with both boys and resentful that he has no alone time (though he obviously has way more than I do). He makes a ton of snarky comments anytime I ask him for help and also has a lot of anxiety. He often seems like he'd prefer to be at work than at home with us.

Did anyone else experience this? What did you do to deal?