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I worked as a high school teacher during both of my pregnancies. During my first pregnancy the students would CONSTANTLY say "Miss, you are big!" And I don't mean once a week, a day, I mean once a period I would hear this. And it really started to bother mean, because guess what.... A woman who is 9 months pregnant IS going to be big (that and I ended up giving birth to a 9lb 6oz baby girl.... so I was slightly larger than the average pregnant lady, but still!?) Good luck. It is AMAZING what people think is ok to say to someone who is pregnant.

Oh I'm sorry! I remember feeling so fat at 18w at my BIL's wedding, I was so self conscious. I think she was probably trying to give you a compliment, like you don't look like you've gained any weight yet. Don't let it get you down.

I don't think it's ever ok, even at the very end. DH's uncle said "hi fatty" when he saw me at the family July 4th cookout. I was scheduled for a c-section the next day and so swelled up, it was gross. It took everything I had NOT to burst into tears. I felt so huge and gross anyway. I didn't need that comment.

In the earlier months I just felt fat, not pregnant. Wearing babydoll/empire waist tops helped me feel better.

The only other thing I can tell you, is that once you have your baby, it will all be worth it. Keep your chin up!

@chrispygal: seriously that makes me almost cry just reading that!!

My aunt also made a comment as well. She asked my husband what he thought of me getting fat. My jaw dropped, and i said - well I'm not fat, I'm pregnant. I've stopped trying to be nice to people. When people tell me how big I'm getting, I say - well i'm not supposed to be getting smaller, or that's what happens when you grow another human being. What we and our bodies are doing is amazing and I refuse to let anyone make me feel badly for it!

Ugh, that is rude. I think some people think it's a complement...like, "you're not near as big as I thought you'd be!" but in a weird way. But i think it's a pretty common one. Nearly all my friends have told me, "oh people just told me they thought I was gaining a little weight until i announced my pregnancy". I'm about 11 weeks now and I definitely think I just look kind of fat. Unfortunately, those first few months are so ambiguous sometimes!

I haven't told my mom yet, but when i was about 6 weeks along or so, she told me i was "meaty". One, not cool, but two, meaty?! Kind of funny I think it's 100% ok to say something if people make comments. I have a lot of....tactless coworkers and I often just say, "rude" to them when they say rude shit.

i really don't get the no filter thing that ppl seem to have when it comes to all things pregnancy/babies/kids.

i did hear that same comment and still do now.... while it's their way of "complimenting" me that i'm "small" i think it's rude either way... as a first time mom, it doesn't feel good to hear "are you sure there's even a baby in there?"... CMON! I've gained 27 lbs!!! just because i'm not carrying it the way ppl expect me to... UGH.

HUGGS.

ugh, never okay to call anyone fat, pregnant or not! people are so rude.

I've gotten a few comments along the lines of, "whoa you popped!" "you finally got big!" "holy belly!" but what's offended me the most is when people (including family members and a friend) told me I'm "starving the baby."

I've measured small all along, but I've been throwing up DAILY since 6 weeks, and I'm 38 weeks now! I mean c'mon, I'd LOVE to be able to eat something other than basic carbs - I'm not purposefully friggin' starving my child. I bawled when I got home after my friend said that. I already had mom-guilt enough that my baby is measuring 3 weeks small, so why tell me I'm starving her? Stupid, stupid people.

I think when people say rude and insensitive things like this, we should call them out on it. Most people just don't realize how hurtful they are being, and if we don't point it out to them, they'll just do it to the next pregnant lady they see.

When I announced to my parents and grandparents, my grandmother's first response was "I was wondering because you seem bigger!" I said "Are you calling me fat, grandma? Because that's just rude!" I know she didn't MEAN to be insulting, but she was, so I pointed it out! She wouldn't have said anything about my size if she didn't know I was pregnant, so why is it okay to comment on my size now that she does know?

If someone ever tells me I'm looking big, I think I'll be tempted to respond with "So do you - what's your excuse?" regardless of whether it's true or not. It's just rude to comment on someone's size, period, pregnant or not.

@Adira: Yes! Agreed!

I'm sorry she said that to you. I've heard it a couple of times from friends, who've never been pregnant before, that I'm big. One time my sister said, "Gosh, you're getting big" to me "jokingly". I told her to never tell a pregnant woman she's big. She tried to laugh it off and act like she was joking with me. I try to not let it bother me.