I've been concerned that LO is not getting enough attention at daycare after watching him on the webcam multiple x's a day. He's a very good/happy baby who the majority of the time I've checked in has been either on the floor alone playing, in a jumpy alone for extended periods or in his crib. They also have started giving him his bottles to hold himself while he lays on a bobby on the floor. I finally mustered up the nerve to say something today and was pretty shocked and disappointed by the teacher's response.

I'm terrible at articulating myself in these situations but I tried to approach it that I had Mommy guilt that I can't be home with him and needed reassurance about my worries. I didn't want them to think I was pointing fingers. As I started talking I was almost immediately shut down and was told that "yes he's not going to get attention. We check on him and if he's fine than we leave him be. They need to learn to play by themselves." I brought up the bottles and she said "we do that so they can learn to hold it themselves." I said that he CAN hold it himself and that they could still hold him while he eats considering diaper changes and bottles are one of the only times that he really has more 1 on 1 attention. She said that he eats a little than stops, eats a little, stops so more or less sounds like she doesn't have time for all that either. I tried to recover and said a few things but started to cry.

I'm beyond upset that she pretty much reaffirmed my worries instead of trying to fix them. I'm mad at myself that I didn't have a backbone in that moment and stand my ground and stand up for my son. I want to have a meeting with the director because I think her response was completely unacceptable. I don't want to make more waves but I'm running out of options. We're going to wait it out a week or two and see if there are any changes but I'm not too confident. We could look for a new daycare but now I'm scared. DH and I are exploring changing work schedules again so I can be home with him during the day but I don't know if that is the best solution either. As if I thought I felt bad before...