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My LO knows my stepmom as "Grandma," but we're close. My stepsisters daughter calls my dad "papa." My mom has been dating her boyfriend for like 12 years, and we refer to him as either Firtname or "papa firstname." Im not necessarily close with him, but I think it will help her to establish familial relationships.

No kids of my own yet, but from my own experience as a kid:: my dad's mom's new husband was just Ray, my dad's dad's new wife was Grandma Jean. I registered that he called them by their first name, but we treated them like grandparents (seeing them on holidays at least), so it made sense to me as a kid.

DH's mom remarried, and my nieces called him Grandpa Lou. We all just called him Lou.

I think kids are likely to use 'grandpa' or the equivalent even if they can tell you're not super close to them bc it makes the family make sense in their heads.

DH parents were divorced and his Dad has been remarried for almost 20 years. Sadly his Mom passed away before him and I met. So even thought his Step mom is the only grandma on that side LO will know, she is going to call her a name based in her name not grandma.

I do not call my dad's gf nor my husband's step-day's gf mom or grandma (both couples have been together for over 5 yrs). I call them by thier first name. But my lo will call them a version of grandma.

When I have a LO I'd like for them to call my stepparents some form of grandma/grandpa.

Yeah. This is a GREAT question. My mother just got married for the first time last year to her husband. I was 34, so needless to say he and I don't have a father-daughter relationship. We are not close at all, and I'm not really a huge fan of him. I'll be watching this thread.

My dh has a step dad that has been in his life since he was 3. His real dad was a little dead beat and has passed away. DH calls his step dad by his first name. However, the plan was for dd to call him grandpa. If we have another, he/she will call him grandpa.

my step mother gets called 'grandma her first name' by all the grandkids.

@pui: I posted about this 5 months ago, before LO arrived!

http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/advice-on-grandparent-names-needed

As an update for me, LO is 4 months old and we haven't decided to call the step parents by any name....we will see what LO calls them.

MIL is divorced but in a long term relationship and SIL's kids refer to them as "Nanny and Barry" (not Barry but you know what I mean!). I guess we will probably go with that.

@pui: no prob. I am *still* struggling with this as step-mil will be visiting for the first time in a week.
I strongly feel first names are disrespectful, but I see grandma/grandpa as an honor that hasn't been earned.

My mom remarried when I was 33 but she had been with my stepdad for over about 10 years at that point. I call him my mother's husband because I feel too old to consider him my dad though we do have a great relationship and I love him. Same goes for my dad's wife. LO will call my mom's husband Pop Pop and my dad Grandpa. She will see her Pop Pop more though because we live in the same state.

I have a stepmom, and my nieces and nephews call her "Deedee" (or Didi, not sure how she spells it). Her name starts with a D, so that's where the name comes from.