It looks like my mom will have to come live with my husband and I very soon. Luckily we will have a small guest house for her to stay in but she's fiercely independent. We've known this was eventually going to happen but we thought wee had a couple more years.
For anyone who has managed this how did it all work? We have a toddler and are hoping to have another baby next year.
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@azbaby: I wish I had good advice for you. I think that's really great you have a guesthouse for her! Are there local caregiver's groups you can join? I know they mention being kind to yourself and giving yourself breaks and self-care a lot
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Each family’s circumstances are so different. But my mom was treated as if she had primary progressive MS (autopsy showed a rare autoimmune condition instead), that caused both physical and cognitive decline. I had always thought I’d have her move in. But it was too hard to care for both toddlers and her. Literally I couldn’t leave her alone at home but also couldn’t manage her plus 2-3 kids at the same time in a parking lot. So she ended up being the youngest in an assisted living at 60 yo (sunrise, is a chain). When she died at 62 yo, my kids were 10 mo, 3 y, 5 yo.
I know I did my best in caring for her, but she needed more than we could safely provide at home. My youngest sister did the most day-to-day bc she lived closest and didn’t have kids yet. But it was hard. And I felt so guilty at the time, less so now in hindsight
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