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I have no advice but my daughter started them around the same age. She full on does foot stomping tantrums at 13 months and started them just before she turned 1.

Oh man my son threw the biggest tantrum last night, he is 13.5 months. He screamed and cried and threw things, and I could not calm him down. He always does this when he doesn't get things that he wants. I hope it gets better soon, I feel for you!

Yep. I think it's just due to them not being able to coordinate their mental and physical growth. We talk calmly to her, make sure she isn't hurting herself, and just ignore it for the most part. We don't discipline for tantrums right now, because I don't think she really understands what is going on.

Yup! That's when they started for us too. I just wait for her to finish and talk to her calmly. I don't really discipline them, I just watch her so she knows she's not ignored but also learns it won't get her anything. She is just trying to communicate and express her frustration.

Oh my gosh... I was just googling this. It's like he turned one and someone flipped some sort of demonic switch. I thought it was teething at first, because he screams like he must surely be in immense pain. But if you distract him he is instantly happy and so obviously not hurt in any way. BTW, google is full of other mom's who've experienced the same thing.

We're trying to ignore that he's tantrumming and talk him through it, with varying levels of success. Distraction is always good now too. DH makes paper airplanes and pretty much plays fetch with E. It's hilarious, but it works and it's his new favorite games. Taking him outside and walking around letting him touch leaves and whatnot is also pretty effective.

Yes at 14 mths my daughter knows how I shake her head no, cross her arms and stamp her feet...seriously. No advice...just commiserating

I'm glad that I found this thread. I went to the daycare this morning and got lectured about this. We've known that LO is stubborn, smart, and knows what's going on. His daycare owner called him a "spoiled brat." I feel like the worst parent right now since he's tantrum-ing and not walking full time. He knows how to walk, walks well, but doesn't want to walk.

I was told to ignore the tantrums, stop carrying him, and do timeouts. So, I have more mornings of tantrums which will probably wake up DH. Ugh, I feel like the worst parent today. I don't want my dude to be a "spoiled brat." He's just over 13 months old.

@HabesBabe: I don't disagree that what she said was inappropriate. She could have phrased it better. I get what she's saying. I just feel like a crap parent. We had a tantrum where he didn't want to walk from the hall to the highchair. We walked away. He eventually came around. He's so stubborn. I think we just need to be more hardcore about them. Ugh, great morning here.

@sorrycharlie: She pointed out that he should be tantrum-ing later at 2 years old, not 1 year. She kind of made it seem like he's not fitting into the mold of other kids. We generally like the daycare, but this morning was so crappy. LO's testing wills which is what he does at home. She basically said that we're letting him run the show. When he pushes his food around at dinner, I stop dinner. The way she said everything this morning makes it sound like I'm not parenting at all in this situtations.

@littlek: Yep, she called him "a spoiled brat." I agree that he doesn't understand what a time out is at 13 months. I think ignoring is the best way. She said that he thrives off of the spoken attention of DH and I. That makes sense to me, so ignoring is the way to go or stop behaviors like throwing food during dinner. I thought that we were doing a decent job. Also, my nephews and niece didn't walk full time until 14 months, so him not walking to walk all the time is right around the same time as his cousins. My nephews and niece are equally stubborn.

@MsLipGloss: Thanks for the love. I definitely think that this is normal. LO is carried very little. When I get him out of the bath or when we're going to the car are the few times we carry him. DH and I are trying to get him express himself and ask what he wants or feels in addition to the ignoring when he melts down. Ugh, just not how I wanted to start my morning.

@MsLipGloss: I do the same thing. I also encourage B to use his words to tell Mommy why he's upset.

YESSSS. She's 14 months and her tantrums are epic! Just this morning, I tried changing her diaper and she was screaming like I was torturing her. Then she wanted her milk bottle and I couldn't pour the milk fast enough. Then her milk bottle fell on the ground and she start wailing. And this is all happening at 5:45am. So yes.....tantrums at 12 months sound very very normal to me.