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We don't find out for another 3 weeks but I just can't wait to know! I totally get the appeal of team green but I just can't wait to find out if this baby is a he or a she. I want to call them by their name.

Being team green was easy once we got past the anatomy scan. It was so amazing to find out at delivery that we had a daughter! I would do it again in a perfect world but I think we will find out for the next baby so we can be prepared if it's a boy. We got a LOT of pink clothes after R was born.

I totally agree with @MRSTIZ! It's a surprise either now or later. I especially agree that it helps with the bonding process especially for the father.

@mrs. mochi: I disagree - my DH wasn't any less bonded to the baby being team green. We knew there a baby in there and that was exciting enough!

@MrsTiz: is right of course, it's a surprise either way, but DH likens it to opening Christmas presents early as opposed to waiting until Christmas morning and all the magic* that entails. You're getting a present either way, but if you wait you get the anticipation of waiting (which I totally get isn't everyone's thing) until that magical morning*...

*If you consider bringing a new life into the works magic, which I do because that had to be the only way I could push a baby out of my vag.

@FutureMrsMcK: That makes sense. I'm for sure a "let's open presents early!" type of person. Oddly enough, DH isn't but he was very anti- TG

@FutureMrsMcK: That's a great way of putting it! Maybe I can help people understand better if I explain it that way.

We're totally Team Green! We weren't for a long time, then I read an article on it, and I thought it sounded fun. DH agreed, and now he's even more set on it than I am. There are a lot of reasons, like not wanting a zillion pink or blue things, hoping people will buy more non-clothing items from the registry, trying to avoid gender disappointment, and hoping it will help me get through the last, hardest bit of labor cause I want to know! But honestly, I think for both of us, the main reason is that it drives our family nuts! We're just contrary like that. ^_^ Plus our names are a little "out there," so we don't want to tell them till they're born. We figure people will be a little less snarky about it once it's on the birth certificate, and hopefully they'll be more willing to not harass us to tell our names if they don't know boy or girl anyway.

Also, we've found plenty of nursery ideas we like. Some are truly neutral, others are perfect to have *almost* done and then add some accents once we know. (Or maybe have bought the accents in both colors and return whichever ones.)

It was an easy choice for us to be team green for a lot of the reasons mentioned here (build-up of anticipation, unscheduled-ness, don't want gendered stuff, and I think it will give me extra incentive during labor!). IMO, being team green for a first baby is perfect, but I would be more inclined to find out with a subsequent baby because I think a young child would relate better to conversations about a new brother or new sister coming...while "the baby" is fine for older kids and adults, it seems like an awfully abstract concept for a toddler.

@PurplePeony: I sort of feel the same about not being TG with a subsequent LO. I'm still on the fence about it (and about having another LO).

@swedishfish: Lol so do I!

Pretty much exactly what @MrsTiz said. I'm wayyyy too impatient to wait!! Plus, it helped to bond us with baby. And I'm a hugeeee planner, so I can't imagine not knowing!

@autumnlove: I always figured you could stock up on boy clothes, and then add a hairbow or skirt if it's a girl. Unfortunately it doesn't work so well the other way, but for you that's fine!

Team gender! I'm dying to know what my little bean is! I don't know how people can wait! I'm ready to plan and shop and it's been difficult for me to find true gender neutral things that don't look super boy-ish!

We found out, and will likely do the same with subsequent children. I think being surprised at the end would be awesome, but I personally don't have the patience or will power. I enjoyed finding out because I was able to plan, and attached more of an identity to her, while she was still in the womb.

I'm registering for all my big ticket items in gender neutral colors even though I'll be finding out what I'm having so we can hopefully reuse things for the next baby. I'm trying to register for some gender neutral basics in clothes and bibs (we will get tons of gender specific clothes later I'm sure) but can't find hardly any!!!

I love being Team Green. I know I wavered for a bit on finding out with this LO, but it was a momentary waver and now I'm back on board. I just love the excitement of not knowing and wondering what it's going to be. I actually think the opposite on bonding - not knowing if it was a boy or a girl meant that DH and I spent so much time dreaming about life with a daughter or son and the anticipation built so much!

For me, it was all about the moment our baby was born - watching DH's face light up as his eyes welled with tears whilst saying "it's a GIRL!" was the most magical moment. I could be wrong, but I don't think you get that kind of raw emotion and reaction at a 20 week scan. It's just so powerful to hear the announcement at that life changing moment, rather than in a sterile scan room where you get up shortly thereafter, walk out and go about your normal day.

I'm totally biased though - it actually irks me when people announce all the details before their baby is born. I just don't get as excited for them when their baby arrives....sort of like if you've peeked at your Christmas presents, you're not as excited about opening them Christmas morning. Sure it's still great you can finally use the presents, but the magic has been diminished somewhat. Just my view though!

We are team green for a lot of the reasons people mentioned (ultimate surprise/anticipation, gender neutral stuff, gear more than clothes for gifts, etc). Our family , friends and even people we don't know well are SO excited to find out if it's a boy or girl. It's been a lot of fun guessing and with only 4 weeks to go I can't *wait* to have DH announce if we have a son or daughter.