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Interesting! We're hoping to start trying in October, so Sadie and little bro/sis will be 3.5+ years apart. All of the reasons I wanted to wait were mentioned, so that makes me happy!
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My oldest and youngest (currently) are 3 years 2 weeks apart. Im pregnant now and the next 2 will be only 2 years apart and Im scared. At 3 my son was a lot more independent I felt like. He started school part time shortly after his sister was born so I got a little breather and one on one time with her. I didnt potty train him before but honestly its easier changing 2 diapers than it is to clean up and chase after messes all over the house. When I did train him at 3 1/2 it only took a week with a small handful of mistakes. Was it fun, no but potty training never will be at any age. He was old enough to leave alone for short bits of time downstairs when I went upstairs to nurse, change, or put the baby down. He was also old enough to help me a little, like handing me stuff or closing the doors for me when I had too much in my hand. Just little things but it worked for us and now Im scared of losing that extra year to be honest.
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Glad to read this thread! We have a 22 month age gap and while i know the girls will grow up and be buds, it's tough on mama. If/when there's a third we'd like to wait at least three years.
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We are hoping for a 3 year age gap and this thread is helping me feel less terrified!
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@photojane: exciting!! I think we are going to start next June so will be a 4yr. Waiting till June cause I don't want a winter baby. Holed up inside on leave wouldn't be good for me.
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My kids are almost exactly 3yrs apart. Baby born in september, oldest turned 3 in October.
My oldest:
- sleeps through the night
- is potty trained
- can dress herself
- can play by herself
- can follow directions
- is helpful
- is in preschool 3x/wkWe were smooth sailing until two months in, when we started noticing some jealousy issues. Our#1 obstacle is big sis letting little sis sleep, and our second is balancing time for both kids (it had to be tough for my oldest to be my only for so long, then have to share her time with me!).
It's a pretty ideal age gap for us.
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I always wanted 2 under 2 but it didn't work out that way, and instead my girls are 5 days shy of being exactly 3.5 years apart. DD1 is a fantastic big sister. She is so helpful in just about every way, and at nearly 5 months, I think DD2 adores her more than anyone. I love it.
For my DD1, though, I think the transition was a little rough for the first 3-4 months. Even now she will say things like, 'You can't always play with me because you always have to feed Sis.' I know that will get better the older DD2 gets, but I do think maybe the transition was tough because she has been the only child for so long.
On the other hand, she's already telling me I should have another baby, so it can't be too traumatizing, right?
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Following as I'm hoping for an exact 3 year age gap!
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This is such a reassuring thread! Evan is 2.5 and we're just starting to TTC now, so best case there'll be a 3.5 year gap.
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Loving reading all these stories!! Thank you! I honestly can't imagine having a newborn with my LO at the age she is now, so it's reassuring to hear how much a difference from 2yrs to 3 yrs makes! Sounds like jealously might be a con- I can imagine that, being the only child for so long might be rough on the first.
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We'll also have close to a 3 year age gap when we start trying. I am finally getting ready to try and a lot of the plus I counted on have been mentioned.
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@Smurfette: eek!!!! Exciting!!
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@BandDmommy: Hopefully neither DH and I chicken out by then!
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@NovBaby1112: thank you so much for starting this! I am 17 weeks with #2 and they will be 3.5 years apart. I thought I knew some of the advantages but it is nice to hear so many great stories!
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