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First, I'm so sorry. I can only imagine the turmoil you are dealing with. In response to your question, if you could find a job back home and you truly don't have any support structure where you currently are, I would seriously consider moving closer to family. Two hours away isn't that bad.

@BabyLove: I'm so sorry to hear this. You didn't fail your daughter! Please don't think that way.

In your situation I'd go back home to family for support. It doesn't have to be a permanent move, but until you are feeling better and on your feet. 2 hours is not that long away.

I am so sorry you are going through this. Please son't feel like you failed your daughter, you didn't.

In your situation, I think I would move back home to gather some strength, have support etc and then decide what to do next.

Oh no, I am SO sorry :'(

I moved away from my family to be near DH's friends and family too, and as horrible as it sounds, I have a plan so should he ever leave, I know what I would do - I would move back home to be with my family. I'm using the assumption that it would be his fault, so I would have no guilt leaving. If he wanted to be in his daughter's life, then he would have to make the sacrifice to move to be by her.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this - I hope you can resolve things in the most pain-free way possible.

I am so sorry...what a difficult situation! Like PPs I too would move closer to home near family. I know that I would need their support to get through the difficult days.

I also want to say that you have not failed your daughter! You clearly are a loving mom and that is the most important thing.

No! You have not failed your daughter. I think we're all pretty united in this opinion. What you need is to surround yourself with love and support. You should go wherever that is.

I am sorry

I would 100% move to be closer to my family and support system.

I'm so sorry you are going through this, I would move closer to family and friends since you have no support system where you are currently living. Wishing you well.

I'm so sorry to hear!

One note: my friend's sister got divorced, and she wanted to move back home with her family... but her ex-husband refused to let her. It turned out that under the terms of the divorce, she had to get permission to move states or something along those lines. Even now (years later), she still can't move close to her parents... so she's raising her two kids by herself (although her family visits as much as they can).

So be sure and get legal advice around how a divorce impacts where you can live!! Good luck!!!

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what you could be going through. You had in no way failed your daughter. I would definitely move closer to family.

I'm so sorry! The feelings you must be going through ahve to be so tough. In answer to your question, I would for sure pack up and move home to be close to my support system. 2 hours is still close enough for your ex to visit and have a relationship with his child, but you need your support system right now.

I'm so sorry!

I've been there. I moved my son and me an hour and a half away to stay with my parents. If you need to talk, I'm here to support if you need it.

You're not a failure...I felt like that, too, though, and I know it's hard not to believe.

Big hugs...it'll be ok.

I'm so sorry. You are not a failure. Personally, I would want to be near my family.

*hugs* I'm so sorry this happened.

Let me say this though. Marriage is HARD!

Even when you think you are doing everything right - things could still fall apart. Definitely don't blame yourself, you did all you could and now you have to do what you can to move forward the best you can.

If I were you I would definitely move closer to my family and friends because at this moment you could use all the support and love they can provide you.

Good luck!

Oh my sweet love. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. What a total shit situation. I agree with PPs, be close to your family and support. He left-he can make the effort. You have to do what you can. Like @swurlygurl I know I'd go, it's not as far for me but it's still important to be around.d people who can help you through this.

And for the record, you didn't fail her. Many marriages end because of stress/strains that are unforeseen. That is just a fact of life. DH and I went thru some very hard times in the last few months and I had to kind of come up with a possible alternative life plan. I didn't talk about it, but it was there. I am sending so much loveyour way!

I'm so sorry you have to go through this

You have gotten lots of good advice, so I won't repeat what everyone else has said. Other than that you are a good person, you didn't "do" anything to deserve this, and you DID NOT fail your daughter. I'm saying these things because I imagine that they are something that you probably can't hear enough of right now.

I went through a divorce when Ellie was a year old. Many of the details I have chosen not to make public here, but if you'd like to exchange e-mail addresses I'd be happy to be a little less vague and/or be a resource for you during this hard time. I have come out on the other side now and am in a wonderful marriage with a man I love (who also was able to legally adopt my oldest) and we have a very happy and stable family. And even before I was married or in a relationship, my daughter's life was much more stable and positive for not being impacted by an awful marriage and relationship.

Lots and lots of hugs. You will get through this. It will be okay. I promise.

I am so sorry. You did NOT fail your daughter. By making yourself happy, you in return are teaching her to be happy in life and not settle. I have too many friends messed up with relationships cause their parents were miserable but stayed together. You are much stronger for leaving and she will know that.

I would move back home to be closer to family.

So sorry to hear this. Hugs and prayers to you!