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And I, for one, have seen more than one Christian couple, including us, who have found much more freedom and happiness and blessing in stepping out of the "roles" we were trying to fit into and just love each other for who we are. Maybe we were all doing it wrong (these are couples who don't necessarily share my fundy background). Personally, I respect my husband, I strive to be his "recreational companion" (term from the Love & Respect book), but I am much more of a leader than he is. That doesn't mean I'm the boss- we brainstorm together A LOT. But I do the manage the household finances, I do the spiritual teaching of our children (because he's out breaking his back for us), the two of us discuss Scripture and doctrine together quite often, as equals, etc. In many ways, we do fulfill traditional gender roles, he goes to work, maintains the vehicles, chops the firewood, I stay at home, keep us fed, keep the house clean, but that has nothing to do with anything, IMO.
But I guess I would say that I disagree with John Piper and Mark Driscoll and those big guys. I think the interpretations that evangelical Christianity has had of certain scriptures for so long is a little off-base. Or maybe that's my own experience coloring my perspective.
I do know that my husband will not sell a crop without consulting me first (and this is a pretty major decision). Not that I ever asked him to, but so far I've been better selling at or near the top of the market and he knows that. So basically, yeah, when it comes to some things, I'm the boss- when I say, "Sell!", we sell.

@FarmWifeGina: I think that the responsibilities and dynamic like you mention are how I've seen it work in most of the Christian households I'm around, and I tend to know/be in regular contact with various people in the same circle with the pastors you mention. I don't think the majority of Christian homes outside of the fundy/Gothard/etc world function in a "one decision maker" type house.

@honeybear: Gotcha

@Weagle: Ok. I would see those guys as just a little left of Gothard, but, again, that may just be my perspective.

@Weagle: Nah, that's ok. I need to be working and not on the internet, lol.

@FarmWifeGina: haha..good interpretation..I love it and agree