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@Shimmer: yep, still waiting it out at nineteen months! Miss A has just stopped nursing to sleep but I stay in the room with her till she's out, I also bedshare with her from her first wakeup of the night. Sleep training was a bad fit for us and WIO made life much more pleasant!

I'm still nursing to sleep. We bed share and she has maybe 1 or 2 wake ups. It's just easier for me at the moment. She's 19 months. I'm getting ready to get a big girl bed so she can have a place to nap. She's really close to falling asleep on her own for naps. She's tired and she wants to sleep. Gets really close but she doesn't have a dedicated place that means sleep.

I am a fellow WIO-er! I still bedshare with my 10 month old and nurse on demand and nurse her to sleep! I have notice lately that she's less snuggly than she used to be so I have experimented with moving her to a crib mattress beside the bed so she can sprawl out a bit more, and then I come down and nurse her in the night to see if that works. I consider it to be the "do nothing" method of sleep training. I have noticed that her sleep has gone through all kinds of phases while I have done exactly the same thing, so I figured I would just observe and ride it out! Also I am lazy, hahaha.

Yup. Definitely a WIO mama. Pre baby I thought I would totally do CIO, but now that she's here I just can not get on board with letting her scream all by herself for hours (because I promise you, she could and would go for HOURS). CIO is just not the best option for our child.

Yep, we have pretty much done this both times.

I will be. LO is due in September, and we're planning to bedshare, etc. I'm not sure DH knows anything about CIO, and he definitely hasn't heard of WIO, but he's very open to listening to my reasoning behind these sorts of things, and definitely won't like CIO once he understands it, so I'm not worried.

@Shimmer: my LO is an incredibly inconsistent sleeper, some nights she'll sleep till 5 or 6, others she wakes before midnight! We have made progress with sleep since Chrustmas though and Miss A has often put herself to sleep for naps and occasionally night time sleep but I firmly believe that she's big on the need for comfort

This is us....17 months later and still waiting it out

I love this.. it made me start to tear up a little! I just figure I'll go with the flow, since I have the blessing of being a stay at home mom. Thanks for sharing this!

@Shimmer: thanks! I really need some reassurance that it will be OK when I'm gone! Were your boys still nursing when you were back to work? If so, did DH offer them a bottle of just cuddle or ? Our DS doesn't currently bottle feed but I'm wondering if it would make the transition easier. I'm also hoping that once he gets used to Daddy going on with no milk, he'll be less interested to wake at night!

@avivoca: I can't stand listening to my DS cry and not responding either. I feel like crying is his only way of communicating and he's trying to tell us something. It breaks my heart to think he needs/wants something and the people he feels most safe with won't respond to him.

Yes. My oldest nursed to sleep until age five, and bed-shared until then as well. My youngest still bed-shares the bulk of the night, and is nursed to sleep. I am a big fan of whatever works. Just for fun, I can tell you that our oldest now sleeps all night in her own bed (though she sometimes asks to have a sleep-over with Lorelei and me), falls asleep on her own, and has fantastic sleep habits. So it does NOT ruin your kids to not sleep train.

My son is almost 3.5 and we still cosleep, partly because I was never able to fully sleep train.

We tried 3 times before the age of 11 months, had some success for the next year, and then had a major regression around 2 years of age. My son likes the comfort of having someone close to him and I do not mind providing him that comfort as long as he wants it. I will not lie, though, there are nights, like last night where I was so touched out that I couldn't handle having his hand on my face and I was wondering what the heck I could do to get out of this situation, but we both eventually got it sorted and slept fine.
It's incredibly limiting, because we can't just call a sitter and go out to dinner if the sitter has to put him to bed. So, it's got both its pros and cons, as does everything else.

Hi Shimmer! I haven't seen you in a while. Our twins are also in the WIO camp at 22 months. DD wakes once if at all but DS is still up at least 2 times plus early wake up's.

Yes, although it is rough right now. Naps are in the crib and he goes down for the night in the crib (if I am lucky) and bed shares once I go to sleep. Lately he has been waking up every 1-2 hours when he is not in bed with me and I am afraid he is confused about why he sometimes get to sleep/nurse with mommy and other times does not.

P.S. I love Nurshable

This is us! My LO is not a candidate for CIO as she has and would cry for hours on end, and she has never once put herself to sleep while crying. We were lucky that she was always an average sleeper and STTN on her own at 5 months. We've had our bumps in the road, but we've just waited it out and she's reverted back to her version of normal, which is initially sleeping in her crib and then co-sleeping with us for the rest of the night from midnight on. I enjoy the baby snuggles and since she weaned herself from night nursing, I know she isn't going to want to sleep with us forever, and I prefer to take her lead.

@Shimmer: I've heard you can but haven't tried yet. It could be just a gold feature??