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@Danizaur: I think that's the same article referenced in this thread: http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sharing#post-1778993

I read this the other day. I agree with some of it.

I do not think children need to share things they own if they don't want to, at least not immediately upon someone else showing interest in it (like her example of a bringing a toy to the park). However, in the case of communal toys that belong to everyone, I think it's wrong to teach a child they can just hog a toy forever without letting any other child have a chance. That toy isn't theirs and I think "I had it first" is a poor reason to not share it with anyone else as long as you want. As an adult I am annoyed when, say, someone hogs the air hockey machine at the arcade without letting anyone else have a turn. It's a shared machine, so it should be shared. It's rude not to.

On the flip side, I do see the value in teaching a child to be patient when someone else is using something and not to feel entitled to it. I think it's a balance the article isn't quite hitting. Still an interesting concept to read!

I mostly agree with it. As does DH. A child shouldn't have to cut short what they were doing just because another child also wants to do it. On the other hand, I feel like it's part of teaching empathy & care for others when you teach your child to acknowledge others around them & their wants & needs too. Personally, I feel sharing is a better concept for when they have trouble seeing anyone play with any toys at that are "theirs" even if they weren't using it at the time. Then we need to explain why it's important to shar.