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For me? Three. I zm awful but I don't find it cute, at all, when a baby is forced down the isle while crying and scared with their mom waving them on from the front. I haaatte it.

DH's niece was ours, and she was three. I didn't want her in it but SIL thought that made me awful, so I caved.

Maybe if she is in a wagon with the ring bearer?? So if she doesn't want to walk it will still be okay.

These days flower girls and ring bearers go down the aisle in strollers, RadioFlyer red wagons, and even with their parents, so any age is fine for brides who want children in their wedding.

If I had flower girls participating in a wedding I would want them to be able to walk unassissted and throw petals on the aisle that enhanced the runner decor. The whole running, stopping, or walking to one side thing kids do annoys me. The whole dumping flowers out all at once or not dropping any flowers at all annoys me to. I think a mature child age 4 or 5 would make a good flower girl and actually perform the flower girl duties.

We thought 19mths was too young for one of our nieces to be a flower girl at our wedding. I suppose it depends on the toddler though.

@betsyboop: I don't think my daughter could have done it at 15 months. Meaning I don't think she could have walked down the isle by herself. Now, if a parent is allowed to walk with her or carry her, or pull her in a wagon then its a different story.

One of our flower girls was 18 months at the wedding (1 1/2 years) and although she was perfectly capable of walking down the aisle--and was fine in the rehearsal, on the actual day, she suddenly didn't want to go down (absoutely REFUSED--later we figured out she was pooping in her diaper, lol) and wouldn't even go into the ceremony hall.

She was being walked down by an older girl, so one of her parents had to go back out (they had already been seated) and wait for her to finish, change her, and come back in, missing the first half of the ceremony.

It wasn't disruptive, because she just didn't come in at all....but she wasn't in any of the pictures or anything. =)

I would say go for it, but warn her that she may not actually complete the task of walking down the aisle. I had a very young one and we had the ring bearer and other flower girl pull her in a wagon, is that an option?

My flower girl was about that age, and I had her mom accompany her down the aisle. She still made a cute flower girl even though she refused to walk down the aisle. She did dump flower petals on her way down though!