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Have you seen her tree?

Is there a big quality difference between your trees? If not, I'd say go for it, bigger the better! Maybe you can trade permanently!

If yours is really nice and hers not so much then I'd probably ask more questions. Why doesn't she just go out a get a smaller tree? Won't she need it again next year? Does she just want to test on for size? And then I'd go from there.

Any chance the 9.5 tree is awesome?? It could be super pretty!

I don't get the big deal, sorry! I would want the taller tree. I wouldn't say no because it is family.

This sounds like something I would suggest, I am PAINFULLY practical, and if I have something that someone else could use and vice versa, I'd suggest a trade. But only to my mother. Everyone else would think I was crazypants.

Don't be afraid to say no! You love your tree, so keep it. And I really doubt this would be a one year only trade.

@.twist.: Do you think part of the reason you don't like her tree as much is because she doesn't decorate it like you decorate yours? Maybe you could just trade for this year and then if you end up really disliking her tree, just tell her you're sorry, but you like your tree better and would like it back?

@.twist.: Well, I meant, trade the trees for the season - ask for it back after Christmas and you've both taken the decorations down and packed it up.

For me it would be a definite no, but we bought a really high quality tree two years ago and I know my family thinks we are crazypants for the amount we spent. So any trade within my family would be a downgrade.

That being said, I absolutely love our 9ft tree. And if all things were equal except the height, I would take the bigger tree.

@.twist.: I think you sound way too attached for this plan to ever work. I can picture you sitting there Chridtmas morning just staring at the tree and wishing you said no.

@.twist.: Not possible! Mine is literally from 1975. My mother bought it on clearance for $19.99.

I think you could be honest. Apologize and just tell her that you know it sounds stupid but you're super attached to your tree and you picked it out specifically with all the features you wanted and you think it would be best if she just go out and get a new tree that will fit in her new house. Or even better, have DH tell her how you feel!

This makes so much more sense with the realization that it is an artificial tree. I was thinking that if it were me I'd just say it seemed like too much mess and needles everywhere to take it back out of the house and end up with sap all over the roof of the car again.

@.twist.: oh you're welcome!!!

I don't have any great advice, I would definitely try to avoid trading, you like your tree and there's nothing wrong with that.

My sister in law asked to trade beds with us! I think she could tell I was put off by it and fortunately never mentioned it again. On the subject of trees she also pawned her old artificial tree off on my husband and it's currently collecting dust in my basement. It's so awkward for me when my in laws are pushy.