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I honestly don't know how to answer your question since it's really up to personal preference. My twins are fraternal (were IVF) and were 10 mins apart for a vaginal birth born at 36 wks. Also, there was a size disparity between them (and still is, haha) Multiple births at my hospital were in the operating room and there were also nicu nurses for each baby already set up. When baby a was born, they let me hold her for a second and then whisked her away to be tested and off to the nicu. When baby b was born (the smaller), she wasn't breathing well and was immediately taken to the nicu, I only saw her for a second. My husband stayed with me the entire time during both births and also went to recovery with me. We were both able to see the babies about an hour or so later after I recovered some and they were both stabilized. I don't think there's a right or wrong answer, it's really up to how you both feel and hospital policy. Either way, make your wishes known to the staff so they're aware.

Only one baby here but I did have to go with our son when he was born. He went for observation as he was born at 35 weeks. They had everything set up and a team in the room when he was born but since he was ok it wasn’t like a rush off/emergency to go there. He nursed and got weighed and then I took him while DW recovered. I fed him a bottle there and got him settled and then went back to DW, then we both went back a couple hours later for feeding.

@LaughLines: my inclination would be the same as yours. If Baby A does need to go to the NICU the nurses and doctors will be doing their thing.. there’s nothing your husband could do to help that I believe would warrant not being there to support you as you deliver Baby B and to witness the birth of his child. I would be surprised if the hospital forced your husband to go to the NICU while you were still delivering.

Since my twins were induced at 34 weeks, it was a given that they both would go to the nicu. My husband followed my DD to the nicu and I had my doula stay with me so I could still have the support. My husband followed the babies and when I was ready and able, I went to see the babies. DD had initial breathing issues so it was good that she had my husband at least near her.

I was induced with my twins at 38 weeks. Same as you, there was a size disparity (and still is at 3.5 years old). Baby A was 5 lbs and Baby B was 4 lbs born 3 minutes apart. My hospital preferred to keep the twins together so even though Baby B was borderline they didn't take her to the NICU. She had to be under the warmer A LOT and had a decent amount of trouble keeping up her temperature. But she was able to keep it up after that first night and passed the car seat test so we left the hospital within 48 hours.

Hospital policy dictates a lot so it might be good to check into that if it will alleviate any anxiety/stress for you.