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hi ladies! I'm a mid May POAS-er, but was reading this thread. i totally relate to insensitive things that people can say to you inadvertently. It's National Infertility Awareness week, so in honor of that I posted this link on my facebook today. They are helpful hints on what NOT to say!
http://www.resolve.org/support-and-services/for-family--friends/infertility-etiquette.html
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@MrsLilybugg: That link is great! Those things are sooooo true! People really need to be more aware of the things they say and how hurtful it might be. Myself included.
7 DPO today! Once I'm half-way through this day, I'll be half-way through my TWW! AF expected a week from today (and hopefully she'll stay away).
How is everyone else doing?
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@MrsLilybugg: Thank you for posting that link! AF showed yesterday, so we are on to cycle 14. I wish there was some way to get certain friends and members of our family to read this so that I could stop getting annoying comments.
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@PBandBaseball: Oh boo!!!! I'm so bummed AF showed up for you! I'm so sorry you have to keep trying! UGH! *hug* How are you feeling?
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@PBandBaseball: sorry about AF. BOOOOO.
AF and HPTs were playing mind games with me this weekend. I took two suspect Dollar store tests in a row, one which had a pink splotch where the line should have been, another which had a line show up but well after the 10 minute mark. BUUUT two in a row, right? Hopeful, right? wrong. AF showed up early, to mock me. 
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@MrsLilybugg: Gahh, AF is such a jerk!!! Those HPTs would have made me hopeful too! I'm so sorry you're out! *hug*
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@MrsLilybugg: So sorry you had two messed up tests. I hate how the TWW messes with your mind, I can only imagine how much it worse it must be to look at two optimistic tests. FX'd for you next month.
@PBandBaseball: Boo for AF for you too!
@Adira: I'm still at 7DPO with you. Are you going to test before AF is due?
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thanks ladies!! I will be stalking this thread looking for your BFP's!
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@oliviaoblivia: I'm not sure! I was planning on waiting until May 5th to test, but since I'm going on travel May 1st (the same day as AF is due), part of me wants to test early. I'm going to try to hold out as long as possible though. Usually I start spotting at 12 DPO, so I think if I don't see any spotting the days leading up to AF, I MIGHT test... though... I still don't know! I'm not sure I'd want to test and then jet off on travel. I want to be able to spend time with my husband celebrating, so maybe I will try to hold off!
What about you?? Thinking of testing early?? How have you been feeling? Any symptoms?
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Thank you ladies! I have my HSG scheduled for next Monday & the hubs had his SA yesterday, so we are moving forward. AF showed on CD 26 and I think the hardest part is that I was not at all expecting to be early. I thought that my very consistent cycles was the one thing we had going for us. We have an appointment on the 11th to go over our results and options.
Good luck to you ladies still in the TWW!!
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@Adira: Thank you!! I am not feeling great. I had to leave work early yesterday and today has been a little rough. I'll be ok!!
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@PBandBaseball: I'm sorry you had such a rough day yesterday, hopefully today gets better. I'm glad you are taking steps and moving forward. We're here for you when you need sympathetic internet ears.
@Adira: I'm thinking about testing two days before AF because that's when DH leaves. It would be nice to POAS while he's still here. He's going to see his sister and it would be nice if he could tell her in person (he hasn't seen her in a year). And then sometimes I think I'll wait for AF. We'll see how strong I am in a week. No symptoms to speak of, a little crampy yesterday, but according to my chart I'm usually crampy on 6dpo.
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@PBandBaseball: Aww, so sorry to hear that! I would probably feel the same way if I had been trying for as long as you guys. Ugh! I hope you get your BFP soon! It's so unfair how some people get pregnant so easily and others have to struggle.
@oliviaoblivia: Oooh, that would be so awesome if your husband could deliver good news on his trip! How long is he going to be away for?? Just a week, right?
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@Adira: 13 days! Ugh. I was going to go, but the thought of being with my MIL for almost two weeks and to get AF there was too much. It sucks though cause I've never been to Australia. Where are you travelling to?
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@Mrslilybug: Great link! Thank you! I just get so frustrated when people are like "When are you gonna have a baby?" Like it's that easy to just make the decision and - boom! - pregnant! Most of these comments of course come from people who got pregnant without trying and/or by accident.
@pbandbaseball: boo! Sorry that AF showed up, and early to boot!
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@oliviaoblivia: Oh my gosh, 13 days! Yikes! That's a long time! And I don't blame you for not wanting to be with your MIL when AF shows up. That would SUCK. I had to hang out at my SIL's baby shower when I started spotting for AF. At least it was only a couple hours and then I got to go home!
I'm traveling to Ohio, haha. I'm going for some training, so I'm hoping it's interesting. I'm glad I'm only going to be gone for three days though. I just hope I don't have to deal with AF while I'm there!
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@eiko2010: Yes, I know what you mean! I think the people that do understand just has challenging it can be to get pregnant are really respectful about it. It's usually my husband's family that keeps asking me when I'm having a baby, so I can't even be snippy in response, which is what I want to be!
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@Adira: I can't imagine going to a baby shower with AF. That must have been horrible. I spent an afternoon with my MIL once with AF and I spent about two hours crying in the bathroom when we got home. 13 days in a foreign land with two witches would be too much.
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@oliviaoblivia: LOL!!! Love your description of your MIL!
But yeah, the baby shower sucked. I mean, I'm lucky that we haven't been trying very long, but it felt like ALL of my in-laws kept coming up to me and asking "When are you going to have one of these???" It was pretty rotten and I'm STILL complaining to people about it, haha.Well, as selfish as it is, I'm glad you'll still be here with us. Hopefully we'll be able to congratulate you, but if not, we'll be here to support you and commiserate with you.
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@Adira: I'm actually really glad I'm not going too! I'll totally miss DH, but I'm relieved that I don't have to spend too much time with MIL.
And you guys all get the TWW drama better than DH anyway! He asked me to POAS yesterday cause he was curious. He has no idea. -
@oliviaoblivia: OMG, hahaha, some men are soooo clueless! My husband is pretty clueless too. I don't even talk to him about it most of the time because he thinks I'm CRAZY. You ladies are so much more understanding! Although, at least your husband is taking an interest! My husband is just like "So when is your period showing up and we can't have sex?" Men!
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@oliviaoblivia: It stinks that you don't get to go to Australia but it sounds like this is the best decision for you. Your description of your MIL definitely doesn't make me want to spend a lot of time with her!
The hubs doesn't understand the TWW either but he's the opposite of yours. He doesn't understand why I want to test early. He thinks I should just wait until AF is a week late. No way I could make it that long!!
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@Adira: DH was SHOCKED when I wasn't PG our first try. He suggested we get IVF. totally clueless. DH was a tough sell on TTC for months and now that it's on, he is so freaking ready.
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@PBandBaseball: I know, I'm bummed about Australia, but maybe we'll take a LO with us next year. MIL is a challenging lady, I hope everyone here has a better one.
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@Adira: You're nicer than I am! I have totally snipped at my husband's cousin who asks us EVERY.TIME we see her. Most people I'll just say "We'll get to it!" or something along those lines. But she's so obnoxious about it, I finally told her we'd have babies when everyone stopped asking. She stopped asking.
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@Adira: & @Oliviaoblivia: Hubs doesn't get the 2WW, either. He doesn't understand why I'm so anxious about it. He also thinks I should just wait to see if AF shows up and then test in a few days if it's late.
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@eiko2010: Good for you for sniping back. People are so nosy! Anyone who asks me gets an earful.
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@oliviaoblivia: haha, yeah, men are so clueless! My husband got mad when we weren't pregnant after our second cycle. He was all "Why aren't we trying harder?? We should be doing it everyday for those two weeks!!" And then when we finally (this cycle) decide to try for everyday, we make it three days before we're both sick of it!
@eiko2010: Oooh, that's a good response! Maybe I should use it. My husband's mom has been asking about it EVERY TIME she sees us for the past THREE YEARS. I'm soooooo sick of her! I wish my husband would tell her to STFU, but he won't (and she doesn't bug HIM about it, just ME).
@PBandBaseball: I can't believe your husband thinks you should wait an EXTRA week before testing!! He's crazy!!! He clearly doesn't understand how LONG the TWW is already!
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@Adira: @oliviaoblivia: I know! I told him an extra week was insane but he says it's because he doesn't want me getting upset about negative tests. I think it's just easier for him to wait because it isn't his body that is going through changes. Every time I feel a little bit nauseous or tired, I want to test. I am SO glad that HB exists and I have ladies like you to share with!!
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@PBandBaseball: I know what you mean! I don't think my husband even thinks about it when I'm in the TWW. Just when I'm on my period, he'll be like "Oh, guess you're not pregnant."
And I'm the SAME way! My body has felt kind of wonky this month and it's PROBABLY just still regulating from going off BCP, but I'm like "THESE MUST BE PREGNANCY SYMPTOMS!!!!" even though I KNOW it's too early to really be able to tell ANYTHING. Thank goodness you ladies are here so I can seem normal to the rest of the world.
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A friend gave me a few good responses to the baby questions:
"I'm sterile, but thanks for reminding me!"
"Not yet, we still need more practice."My parents liked to mention it to me way too much, even before I was engaged! They even made up imaginary grandkids (they're crazy). So I told them that each time they say something to me, it will add on a year. I'm probably supposed to be 50 or so by now
It sure shut my mom up, but it took my Dad longer. We were going to Catalina island with friends a year ago, and he felt the need to tell me its called the "Isle of Conception". So I sent the message through my mom that maybe I had miscarried and him saying something made me feel bad. That shut him up! And this was all way before we were even TTC Also, a few weeks ago a cousin (who is in her late 40s) told me we need another baby in the family, so I told her she should have one!
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@Adira: lol. I am really curious what I will feel like if/when I do get pregnant since I have been SO sure that I've had pregnancy symptoms about 4-5 cycles over the past year. I wonder if I will even feel any different.
I hope this is your month! As sad as I am that AF is here, I really do get excited for other people when they get their BFPs.
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@Mrs.Someone: haha, I've actually contemplated telling Hubs family that every time they ask, I add another year! But then I always lose my nerve and I don't say anything! It would be easier if it was my own family that was bugging me, but my family is really respectful. Although that's probably because I'm always complaining to them about Hubs family, so they know better! It's good to have go-to answers though. I need to come up with some that I'll actually have the nerve to say the next time someone asks me.
@PBandBaseball: I know what you mean! My first cycle (and now this one), I've been CONVINCED that I was pregnant. The first cycle, I even went so far as to cut out coffee and start eating like I was pregnant. I even TOLD people "I think I'm pregnant!" And then AF showed up. Now, even though I'm convinced again, I'm trying to tell myself that there will probably be ZERO symptoms when I actually am pregnant, and I need to stop getting my hopes up, lol. And thank you! I hope it's my month too!
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@Adria - do it! Though I hope you get your BFP before you have the chance to. I guess I'm lucky that my inlaws are in Brazil and speak Portuguese half the time, so I don't always hear what they're talking about. I know they've been expecting it any time though, especially since they now have their first grandkid from my SIL.
And a real update... I'm 12DPO now, and no real symptoms, so I still don't think it happened this month. Didn't stop me from Googling "BFP with no symptoms" though!
AF is due on Friday/Saturday, so I'll test on Sunday/Monday if she somehow doesn't show up.
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@Mrs.Someone: Fingers crossed for you. A lot of people have no symptoms with BFP. Are you going to test before AF?@PBandBaseball: How do you get such a nice outlook on other people's BFPs. IRL I get really grumpy with every FB post.
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@oliviaoblivia - Nope! Last month (first cycle) I was so convinced that I had nausea for a week, even after a BFN and AF. So no testing until AF is at least a day or two late.
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@Mrs.Someone: Oh man, I wish my in-laws didn't speak English! hahaha, that would be such a relief! But I know what you mean - ever since my SIL had her first, everyone's been waiting for me to have one. And that was SEVEN YEARS AGO when Hubs and I were first dating!!! And now that she's finally having their second, they're getting even more impatient with me.
Also, I think a lot of people have no symptoms during the first few weeks of pregnancy, so you're not out yet! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you!!!
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@Adria - Thanks! My in-laws speak excellent English, sometimes they just choose not to. Though some of them aren't very comfortable speaking it.
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@Mrs.Someone: haha, I've googled that too. Glad I'm not alone.
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@Grace - Definitely not! Today's Google was "ab exercises during TWW"
Inconclusive though! I wanted to go to a BodyPump class, but DH said I shouldn't since I'm still recovering from a foot surgery.
AF and HPTs were playing mind games with me this weekend. I took two suspect Dollar store tests in a row, one which had a pink splotch where the line should have been, another which had a line show up but well after the 10 minute mark. BUUUT two in a row, right? Hopeful, right? wrong. AF showed up early, to mock me. 
It sure shut my mom up, but it took my Dad longer. We were going to Catalina island with friends a year ago, and he felt the need to tell me its called the "Isle of Conception". So I sent the message through my mom that maybe I had miscarried and him saying something made me feel bad. That shut him up! And this was all way before we were even TTC 
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