No one asked me for DD, but I'm shocked at the number of people asking me this time. They will be 27 months apart!
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Only once, by a guy friend who was still very much single/party life style. He's not at the poitn in his life to realize that people do want to get pregnant
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People asked me this all the time. So rude!
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OMG no. Who asks that?!
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Yes, by my BIL who is usually very shy/reserved...I was shocked!
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No one asked with DS1, but I was 17 in high school, so pretty easy to figure out, no it was not planned. With DS2 everyone asked though, which I found pretty rude, but whatever....people are nosy. Lol.
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ConstAntly. They will be 19-20 months apart and everyone assumes it was a big fat oops. People have actually said some really rude things!!
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Yes. By the the BIL of a friend of ours. Turns out he and his wife had been trying for some time. They're pregnant now!
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I've had a few insinuations, but my answer is now "look, I had two losses. Nothing about this process is under my control." That usually gets people to shut up real quick.
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Yes since they will be 18 months apart. My doctor even asked me if I was 'shocked' assuming that it wasnt planned!
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I had a few older relatives ask me. Probably because we haven't even reached our one year wedding anniversary yet (a few weeks from now!) and people might have thought we were going to wait longer.
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One or two people. Not that many..... as pretty much everyone knows I wanted 2 and LO is going to be 2 1/2 when the baby is born.
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Quite a few, and this is our first baby. She wasn't planned, but I usually say she was. I have only been brave enough to pull out the, "Why do you ask?" a couple times.
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Surprisingly, yes! Which blows my mind, because I would NEVER think that to be an appropriate conversation..even if I didn't plan to get pregnant.
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Everyone knew 1 wasn't planned so no one asked. I got this question a lot for #2!
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Yes, some people did ask this, and this is our first child. We were NTNP and I was charting. It kind of shocked me, because that's a really personal question and people should know better.
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I think only my parents asked.
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@daniellemybelle: ha that's a great reply.
I got it a lot because I was 22 when I had him.
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Yes! So many times, especially for baby #2, they will be 22 months apart. It's so rude, I just want to say it's none of your business!!
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Yes they do since we got pregnant 3 months after our wedding and I don't think anyone expected it. Granted, it wasn't really planned in the traditional sense we weren't trying "okay I'm ovulating, let's go". But, when you aren't on birth control and you have unprotected sex, how is it not somewhat planned?! I don't feel the need to explain that to people though so I just say yes. We wanted a baby in fall, we got one a little sooner than expected! We definitely didn't think one time without pulling out would get us pregnant, but we're intelligent people who know the risks of not using contraception.
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Yes, all the time. They are 21 months apart and our second daughter was adopted, so very much planned!
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That seems so rude! No one asked us, but everyone who knows me at all knows I've had baby fever for a loooong time, so they were just surprised we waited so long!
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@Mrs. Pen: That's my standard reply for rude questions but I am often not brave enough to say it!
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yes...pregnant with my first and when people started finding out at work the receptionist asked "was it planned??" i gave her a death stare and said he sure was...
what is wrong with people!!!
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A lot of people asked with my first, and I haven't had anyone ask about my second. They will be 2.5 years apart, and I assume everyone was expecting me to get pregnant soon anyways.
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Yes all the time! I think it's weird. We've been married almost 4 years and are in our 30s there isn't much in my life right now that isn't planned. I also am not a fan of people asking me how long we tried for unless it's a close friend. Um, do you also want to know how many times we DTD?!
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I had this a few times!! I was pretty surprised - I'm in my thirties (with no previous oops children) and married, why would they assume my pregnancy was an accident?! Weird!
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Ha ha! This reminds me of all the shotgun wedding questions I was asked.
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I got asked this all the time too! I was flabbergasted that people would be so nosy and rude!
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I'm bracing myself for this one. I haven't announced, yet, but I know I'll be getting it.
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Yep, people asked all the time. So rude!
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Only one person, and she is a bit younger. But we are in our 30s, married almost three years, and everyone knows we wanted kids. We got asked when we were having kids way way more.
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@BabyBoecksMom: Yep. Once by a client. On the record. During a deposition.
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Yes! Hated it!
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Sure did. I found it rude but was usually honest. DD was a surprise baby, but DH and I are both educated, employed, and in our late twenties. I had nothing to be ashamed of, so I just made the other person feel awkward for asking.
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@MsLipGloss: wth?? How did you respond to that? "Ummmm... How does that apply to what we're talking about??"
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@BabyBoecksMom: I actually objected to the question (yep, from my own client) on the basis of relevancy (I wanted to object based on a clear display of a lack of decency and social etiquette!), and asked opposing counsel if he would agree to strike the comment from the record. He did. I was equally mortified and livid.
Annnnd, inorite?! The kicker is my client was a woman! *lesigh*
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A couple people have asked me but most aren't surprised since my husband and I have been married 5 years. In fact, we were starting to get the, "What are you waiting for? and "You're not getting any younger!" kind of answers. Funny how people seem to give you one extreme or the other kind of comments.
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I was pregnant with multiples, so yes it definitely came up a few times. As well as the "does that run in your family", "did you get pregnant naturally". etc. People have no tact.
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Yep! And I want to say something like, "Yeah, and we tried for a long time ... Had a miscarriage too, wanna ask me about that?" ... I would never say that outloud, ha, but I can't help but think about it. So rude.
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