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Did people ask you "Was it planned?"

  1. Ellie

    cherry / 157 posts

    I only had a cousin ask, thank goodness (unfortunately when I was standing next to other cousins, SIL, etc). We're not too close and I didn't want to get into our trials TTC and what-not, so I lied and told them all that she wasn't planned. I didn't want to get into a long conversation about it.

    I think I'm actually a bit ashamed of how long we TTC or something. I don't know why I don't shout from the rooftops that we were finally successful. At least DH and I know and appreciate our daughter even more for it.

  2. MrsRcCar

    grapefruit / 4712 posts

    I got it when I was pregnant with N all the time. This time a few people have asked. I am sure once we formally announce it to everyone we will get it more. We planned to have them about 18 months apart.

  3. MamaBehr

    pomegranate / 3275 posts

    It's even worse with the third baby. ugh.

  4. mrsdoily

    apricot / 367 posts

    No one has asked, but we have been together for 9 years and married for 1 year. However, people did ask us what took so long, which killed me, since we had one miscarriage during 12 months of active trying.

  5. MrsStormy

    clementine / 818 posts

    I've been asked, and its sort of an awkward thing to answer, but in all fairness I was pretty vocal about wanting to wait for a while (although while I did want to wait awhile, I had been married 2 years when I got pregnant, and part of why I told people that was so they wouldn't ask me all the time about having babies). The worst though someone asked me if "I was okay" like I was going to be upset, um yes, I'm a grown up, I did in fact plan this, I have been married several years, I think I will be fine.

    ETA: I also had a client who was youngish ask me if I was totally SHOCKED when I found out I was pregnant, I answered not really, but she just kept persisting, I finally had to explain to her that no, when you are not using protection pregnancy can happen, and when you are intentionally not using protection it normally means you are TRYING to have a baby, which takes a little of the shock factor away.

  6. HeartAbandoned

    clementine / 933 posts

    Not an applicable question yet, but having watched my DH around one of his close coworkers who just had a baby, any rude questions that get asked around him will have equally rude answers. Why does it matter? How his this relevant to your life? People are dumb!

  7. AprilFool

    nectarine / 2591 posts

    Yes by a few people but one of them was my mum!! I had told her a different TTC timeline so she wouldn't bug me. I still thought it was an odd question because oops or not what difference does a few months make if we were trying.

  8. Mrs. J

    pomelo / 5132 posts

    yep, including by my high school students! So awkward coming from them, especially coupled with, "When did that happen?" Well...

    lol

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