I'm 5 months pregnant with my second child. I am very excited to have/ hold/ snuggle a new little baby, but I am also scared to death about how I'll balance the needs of two children (DS1 will be 19 months old). I know MANY people have done this and I'm sure we'll figure it out eventually but at the moment I am really scared! Please tell me this is normal! How did you handle the initial transition. How long did it take to settle into a new normal?
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I'll have 2 under 2 come May. Honestly, I try no to think about it because it will just stress me out. I figure I'll be able to handle it when the day comes. I'm not the 1st person to have 2 kids under 2! If others can do it, I can to!
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I'm super nervous as well. DD will be 22 months when the next baby gets here in May. I'm especially nervous for the first few weeks post-partum since I will likely be having a c-section. DD will probably still be a bit young to understand why mommy can't lift her, play with her properly, etc. I'm hoping that it won't take too long to get into a good routine.
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I love how all the May Mom's are chiming in as we're about the same amount preggo! My DD will also be 19m at time when #2 is born, I think back to some tough early days and think how on earth are we going to manage. I struggle with "is telling myself this will eventually pass" going to help in those super tough moments?
We are keeping #1 in daycare the first 6w after #2 arrives, and I am hoping that helps us. Nighttime is my biggest fear, what on earth do people do when one starts crying, and wakes the other? Oh man, lol. I then calm myself with like @Mamasig: said, we aren't the first ones to do this!
Would also love to hear when folks settled in to new normal!
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I was nervous but things have been pretty smooth. The first two weeks were kinda hard...I had to adjust to the neediness of a newborn while recovering from a csection with an active 16 month old. My DH took a long paternity leave and LO stayed in daycare FT the first two months so that really helped...
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My plan Is to keep lo#1 in daycare and have babe with me in the bedroom the first while (probably cobed) so they don't wake each other up. Lo#1 will be 24 months.
Other than that I'm just gonna see what happens and adjust accordingly.
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I'll have 2 under 2 come June. I'm terrified but what I hear from everyone is that while it's hard it's so worth it seeing them interact.
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Mine are 15 months apart, and I can tell you, that what your feeling is normal! There were many times while I was pregnant and I just thought to myself 'OMFG! What did we do?' 'We can do this!' 'Its going to be too hard!' I'm not saying it's easy, but not nearly as bad as I thought it was going to be
you'll get through it, and every kiss that my son gives his little sister makes it all worth it! -
I'm definitely nervous, but how freaked out I a just depends on how each day is going
We are super easy going and prefer to go with the flow, so I know we'll manage regardless. Mostly it's like birth- I try not to dwell on it, because as a whole I know something really awesome is coming up!
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Mine are 19 months apart!
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I was very nervous and blogged about it a few times. I was stressed about managing two as well as loving the 2nd one honestly as I was head over heels with my son I couldnt imagine loving anyone else the same amount. In the end I realized that my DD was and is the best gift I gave my son. Its not always easy with 2 honestly but the love I see between them now tells me that it was worth it. Some days are harder than others and some days you wont get as much if anything done al youll be utterly exhausted but the days are long the years are short and youll be through it before you know it. Best of luck and congratulations
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I was TERRIFIED. I was especially nervous about how my toddler would transition to having to share my time on a day to day basis.
My kids are 13.5 months apart. DD is almost 3 weeks old and so far the transition has been much easier than I thought it would be. My husband was only home for the first week and it was amazing to have him there while DS was getting used to having his little sister around. DH was able to help give DS the attention that he's been used to while I also adjusted to caring for a newborn again, breastfeeding, etc. I was really scared for him to go back to work week 2 but I think the kids and I are actually doing really well on our own!! Life isn't the same as it was with only 1 but it's so worth it.
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I will be in the same position as you. About 19 months apart! I am less than a month from my due date and when I am up in the middle of the night from pregnancy insomnia, I start thinking about how hard its going to be. One thing I am going to try to do is rely on as many people who want to help out as possible. We will get through it, and who knows, some crazy idea may pop into our head about having ANOTHER one haha
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I even worry about it a bit, even though DS is 6. He's independent and able to actually be helpful, but I do worry about accidentally neglecting him. But, I know I'm crazy and we'll all just be happy together.
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I'min the same position as you as well! We have #2 arriving in Feb and DD will be 19 months old at the time. I am petrified I will be a stressed out mess who can't meet the needs of either of my children. I'm scared #2 is going to be a more challenging baby than DD was (she was so easy!) and that DD is going to have a hard time adjusting. I'm also really sad about having to share the time I spend with DD. I am a SAHM so giving up time with her is going to be a huge transition for me as well!
Fortunately, DH has two weeks of paternity leave and then my mom is flying in from the US to stay with us for a few weeks. DH works crazy hours right now (70-80 hrs per week) and needs his sleep at night, the whole five hours or so he gets, so I'm going to definitely be relying on my mom a lot whilst she's here! But yes, it is a scary prospect and I sometimes wonder what on earth we were thinking!
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@Ree723: My main emotion, especially towards the end of my pregnancy, was sadness for the one on one time I'd lose with DS. Our one on one/special time seems extra special now though and I've found myself really appreciating every little second that he and I get to just read books in his rocker, do puzzles, have a dance party in the kitchen, etc. Everything feels special. Hugs!
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Another May 2014 mama here... will also have 2 under 2. I guess I'm not TOO worried about it, because I feel like there's nothing that worrying can do. I'm bracing myself for absolute insanity once the hubs goes back to work, but at least I'll have my mom who can help out.
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@Beyond2: My LO's will also be 19 months apart and yes I'm a bit nervous! I know I can do this though, but it's just going to be difficult at times.
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Mine will be about 23 months apart. I try not to think about it too much right now (how I'm going to handle both!) or I will drive myself crazy..:)
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I'm starting to get pretty anxious about it. I think my biggest fear right now is I'll go into labor, be alone and have no one to take care of DS! I think I'll be wayyyyyy more prepared once I'm home from hospital with DD, just because I know what to do/expect.
you'll get through it, and every kiss that my son gives his little sister makes it all worth it! 
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