I feel like money stress causes most of the arguments in our house - though the arguments aren't always *about* money, typically they're a result of the stress of thinking about money.
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I voted other because we bicker most about chores!
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I voted other:
Basically, I have a short temper and no patience. My husband knows mornings stress me out, but he still takes his sweet time, as does my son.
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that he just doesn't seem to understand that i'm always right!! i mean, what is so hard about that.
haha. i think division of labor/chores is #1 for us.
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Children! Usually it is differences of opinion on handling something or other related to the girls.
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His mom living with us. Once she's out I'll be in HEAVEN!
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Other/work. He comes home from work exhausted and just wants to zone out playing video games, and I get it, I do, I want him to decompress, and I do too after being by myself with E all day, but I feel like I take second or third priority most nights...I don't need him to be attached to my hip all night every night, but I feel like I don't get a lot of quality time with him. It's an ongoing issue, because I don't want to sound clingy and whiny about it, and I don't want to have to nag him to spend time with me. I actually suggested the 30-day sex challenge...physical intimacy of some sort every day for a month, and it's been nice to have that time, but we've not been disciplined about the every day part...he comes home after a 14 hour shift dead on his feet, or I was sick or the baby wakes up...
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At the moment it's work; Dh and I have our own business and it's really hard trying to get the work/quality time together balance right.
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Eh, I don't know how to answer this... We really don't fight. And if we do it's because I'm hungry or crabby... and dh not helping fix the problem. Lol!
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@babycanuck: i would kill myself. i'm not even joking. i could not live with my MIL. you are a saint!
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Hm. Used to be chores, now it's probably money stresses.
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MIL
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IL drama triggers poor behavior, poor behavior triggers IL drama, it's a vicious cycle in our household.
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@Mrs. Bird - I'm not going to lie, some days I wonder why I don't jump off a roof.
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I think for us the biggest problem is lack of intimacy. Of course taking care of LO is a big job and so much of our time is spent dividing and conquering child care issues. And then when LO is in bed we often retreat to our sides of the house to do what we want to do. For me that's usually tv or reading a book and for my husband that's usually getting on the internet. I think we both just need to decompress, but it's a shame we get so little quality time.
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Um, my lack of sleep, probably.
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In-laws (his family. My family thinks he is perfect lol) or work (because DH is a workaholic)
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We rarely argue but if we do it's over chores or me nagging him about chores.
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Spouse's behavior and inlaws for sure.
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It's usually a "help me more" (me talking) or a "you worry too much" (dh talking) argument but we don't have huge arguments lately, although that's not to say we haven't had our rough patches...
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We don't fight too often, but when we do... it's over chores - he just has a much higher messiness threshold than I do... so I voted other!
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Definitely chores and the balance of work within our household.
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My husband's parents. It's not often but basically whenever we visit home or they visit us it creates tension. My husband would agree 100% that his parents are the biggest source of stress in our relationship.
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Work, work, work.... Work is our one and only major tension.
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I voted money and work, but it really all boils down to money. He works a lot because we need the money but I want him home more and don't think he really needs to work as much as he does. I think a lot of it boils down to the fact that his dad is a major workaholic and DH puts so much stock in what his dad thinks so he feels like he needs to work as much as his dad. Seriously, his dad has made comments when DH doesn't work on a weekend day, like he's lazy or something. I get really upset about it.
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In-laws for sure.
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@JamieLee: My husband is a workaholic too..
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@littlek: it's seriously difficult! We have a three week old baby and I really need some help in the evenings but its like pulling teeth to get him home at a reasonable hour...
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My mil and sil should have their own reality tv show. They cause so much drama within the family, It's been 7 years since i've seen a somewhat "normal" holiday! Someone ends up in tears and out the door before dinner even starts.
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I picked spouse behavior. We both think that we are the ones doing all the chores and taking care of the kid. But truth be told it really is both of us. Plus all 3 of us have been sick non-stop since baby came. So that doesn't help with anyone's good moods!
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-Chores (by far- probably only bothers me!)
-Work (we work together, enough said!)
-IL's. (DH works for his IL's and mine are crazy) -
@travellingbee: ditto!
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Other: sex- BD is just not as fun as Dancing 2 Dance
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Ditto to @travellingbee: !
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I voted behavior because housekeeping/chores are really the only thing we fight about and I thought they fit best under that category.
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Almost all of our arguments stem from DH wanting to keep too much stuff! And I'm much more minimalist and it drives me batty. He has so much camping equipment, wires and computer stuff, electronic equipment ... And he refuses to get rid of any of it. Well, I say that but it has gotten a little better, but still not as much as I'd like! Hopefully when move into a bigger home, it won't seem like it's taking up so much space.
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I voted other because it's always about house work. We don't ever really fight about money or family or work. Although once we have a baby that may change I guess haha.
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@Ash: this is us too
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I didn't even think to put chores/housework!
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@nana87: Ooh, good one. Yup, that's probably our chart-topper, too.
Chores (he does more than me), in-laws/family (we both have ammo there), then money (infrequently, just how to spend/budget). It's more of a bicker than a fight, we usually hash it out before it reaches blow-up levels.
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