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What does your SO’s paternity leave look like? Would you rather it on the weekend so his leave technically begins when you are at home?

I would go with mid week too. I had a scheduled c-section on a Tuesday, went home Saturday morning. It was nice because my mom & dad could make it up to help some my first days home without having to take off work.

Also, your daughter being in school while you're in the hospital might make it easier on dad and who ever is watching her.

I chose a Tuesday night. I had her on a Wednesday and we were released from hospital on Friday morning. We then got to settle in as family of 4 that weekend. Life went back to “normal” on Monday.

Def Monday. Weekends are less staffed and you never know. I had a induction Wednesday morning. My 3rd was born that night. We were supposed to leave Friday morning but they wanted to check her jaundice levels again Friday afternoon. Thankfully it didn’t spike too much and we were allowed to discharge with the condition of us going to see our pediatrician the next morning (Saturday). If our pediatrician didn’t have Saturday hours then they would have kept us until Monday (!) because no Labs and the pediatrician that sees the baby wouldn’t be at the hospital over the weekend. We prayed a lot that day bc I had two other littles at home

Thursday morning so you could go home over the weekend. My LOs were born Thurs, Fri, and Sat and it was nice because DH was able to take just 1-2 extra days of leave rather than returning at the end of the week so we ended up getting an extra 3 or 4 days that way.

ETA if he can't get extra leave, he would presumably go back for only a day or 2 to start which can also ease the transition for you.

My DH does not get paid leave. So I tried to avoid making him take too much time off.
With my first I chose Friday. He was born Saturday and we went home on Monday afternoon. With my second I chose Thursday and she was born thurs. I went home Saturday morning at 10am but she was still in the NICU. My OB told us the dates he was available and let us pick from there. I did not feel the hospital was understaffed. It was also easier over the weekend to have extended family and friends visit etc.

my other kids were both born on Tuesday by their own choice but if we induce this time, I think I will have Wed or Fri as choices and reading these would make me lean Wed so that (assuming all goes well) everyone could be home together the first weekend. My 6yo is going to be sooo into it I think! But in our case school won't quite have started yet anyway. From a work perspective, I think better for DH for it to be during the week because people are pretty understanding of the first couple days and less so as it goes on, so might as well be work days. But I can totally see other angles too!

I would do Monday as well especially if big sister can't visit in the hospital. The routine of the school day would help with that. Plus what everyone else said about weekend shifts.

With my son, we arrived at the hospital mid-morning on a Wed, and he was born at 1am on a Thu. We went home on Saturday. All the staff was amazing.

My twins will ideally be born during week 36 and can't go past 36w0d due to pregnancy specifics. I assume an induction is likely because what are the odds of spontaneous labor so early? My pregnancy weeks cycle on Thursdays, so I will probably try to schedule the induction for Monday (36w4d) or Tuesday (36w5d) if hospital scheduling permits.

Early weekday bc I know of some inductions that took 3-5 days!