I have moments where I think I'm a bad mom because I have my mom's help. Then I snap of it and realize I'm really lucky to have her support and that I'm not a bad mom for it!
I also feel bad on days where I'm counting down to his bedtime...!
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Hurmm..
I only feel bad on days I'm not patient with DD and I raise my voice (which is like every day).
Haha. I've actually been better about it this year and there was no voice raising today! Woot. -
I feel bad when I get frustrated with LO. She has days where she is non stop whining/crying and it's overwhelming. I usually snap out of it real fast, but I still feel bad for those few seconds that I got upset.
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Everything.
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Mostly just not being present enough when I am with her (which is all the time since I SAH).
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I definitely have mommy guilt about having to work (and wanting to work). In an ideal world, I would work part-time, but that is just not an option for our family.
I also have mommy-guilt when I get frustrated with her. I have to remind myself that she is only 6 months old, and she isn't intentionally trying to drive her mommy crazy sometimes.
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Mostly about trying new things with her and getting her out of the house so she can interact with others. Poor kid hardly ever gets to interact with other children.
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Sometimes I get bored being at home with him and take him places just to keep myself from going crazy. Then I feel bad about it.
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@cyan: this.
Lately I just feel so bad for working - but I want to work and love my job. It's so tough.
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Right now...I feel guilty because while I SAH (and fought to be able to), I am actively seeking employment and cannot wait to get back into the workforce. I now know that the perfect 'maternity leave' for me is 6 months, but now at 7, I think LO would thrive more in a daycare setting with other LOs and I would be better back in the workforce.
@mrsbookworm: Story of my life!
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@mrsbookworm: Yes-- especially when the weather is terrible, or I mess with her nap time, because I just need to get out.
I feel guilty sometimes when I'm playing with my phone instead of playing with her, or when I get frustrated-- but mostly I take my frustrations with her out on DH, which is also not great.
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I'm suffering from an acute case of mummy guilt because I am 36 weeks pregnant and I physically just cannot play with my toddler as much as I'd like to. I'm spending an awful lot of time on the couch verbally interacting with her or reading her stories, but not much time on the floor actually playing with her.
I also am struggling with patience right now as I am so over being pregnant and sometimes get a bit grumpy with DD when she does normal, yet undesirable, toddler behaviours. Throwing her food on the floor in particular sets me off because then having to lean over to pick it up causes major reflux and BH that take forever to calm down. I feel terrible when I snap at her, which fortunately isn't very often, but I am just wracked with guilt whenever I do snap and feel like the world's worst mother.
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Guilt for having and wanting to work cause she doesn't get good naps at day care. I hate she doesn't get the sleep she need during the week.
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Not taking in LO to see a Dr right away when weird bruising popped up...she was hospitalized and needed treatment!
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Being gone at work all day when I'd rather be with him. I feel like I miss so much!
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DS going to daycare like 50 hours a week. Not packing great lunches. Not cooking great dinners.
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@Ree723: Hugs!! I know those feelings very very well! It'll be over soon!
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I lose my temper and it's not good. Usually happens when they're being naughty to each other.
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I feel like I don't talk to her enough, but I just don't know what to say! I sing to her a lot, but I don't know if that's good enough as far as language development goes.
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@autumnlove that sounds scary! What caused the bruising??
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@Running Elley: Thanks friend! I just hope I handle parenting two under two as well as you have!
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@Sparkler: A platelet disorder!
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Interesting! Had she had any previous CBC tests as a baseline before the bruising episode? Poor thing:/
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@Ree723: Lol things are definitely not always sunshine and rainbows around here but it's worth it
I remember how excited I was when I got home from the hospital that DS could actually sit on my whole lap again. You're so close. And then we can fing out whether its a boy or girl! Finally!!!!I have mom guilt about getting frustrated at DS. He's ALL over the place all the time and the whining and tantrums almost drive me crazy some days.
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Losing my temper and telling my toddler that he is acting like a baby for crying
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@autumnlove: only a doctor or someone familiar would've known that though - kids get so many weird spots
I feel bad that I work all day, and have since he was 6 weeks
I feel bad that this impacted breastfeeding
If I want to go out and do something for myself after work I feel bad for missing time with him that I don't have to miss.
I feel bad that he probably won't have a sibling -
I feel guilty for losing patience, but the days are looooooooooooooooooong.
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Screen time. I don't know how you SAHM's go all day without any television. LO is almost 7 months but isn't mobile yet. Frankly, I run out of stuff to do with him. He is a cat napper (30 minute naps) and it is exhausting finding ways to entertain him when we are stuck in the house.
Mama needs to cuddle on the couch and watch some HGTV (or Spongebob for him) a couple hours a day.
I can't believe I'm even admitting that on here.
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@rahlyrah: I totally hear ya. I would NOT have survived ystdy if it weren't for PBS. I let her watch it all morning so I could cook, clean, do laundry... I'm a sahm and my daughter doesn't play alone very well so it's very hard to get done anything while she's up. You gotta do what you gotta do :T
- I feel guilty about letting her watch tv or play on my iphone so I can get stuff done
- I feel guilty about letting her have juice instead of milk bc I want to avoid a huge fight and a meltdown.
- I feel guilty that I get frustrated and raise my voice at her when she's just acting like a normal toddler
- I feel guilty that I don't cook her meals all the time. I feel like I shouldn't rely on Annie's Mac and cheese since I'm home with her.So much more but I'll stop there
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@Andrea: this is why I went back to work. My son was frustrated, I was frustrated, my husband was frustrated. It wasn't pleasant for anyone.
Now, we have our moments, but I am so much better able to handle the "situations" now.
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I feel guilty for sometimes not allowing her to continue to comfort nurse once she's done eating and at the same time I feel like a lazy mom for allowing her to nurse when she isn't hungry just to get her to stop crying.
I feel bad when we're out past bedtime & when I let her fuss for a few minutes longer than I normally would just so I can get a drink or a snack or something.
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@rahlyrah: I'm the exact same.
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For having to wean her so we can TTC. Every time I attempt to sleep train her it kills me and I never see it through; I feel guilty that I try in the first place and guilty that it failed so it was all for nothing.
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I feel guilty if I'm not acively interacting with her all day - but sometimes I need to pop her in her jumperoo and have a break!
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I feel guilty about most of the above, plus the fact that LO doesn't eat enough vegetables because sometimes I just don't have enough fight left in me to insist...I especially feel bad when I yell at him.
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@lawbee11: For the first 2-3 months of DS's life, I didn't know what to say to him either! I'd just stare at him in awe all the time. Then starting around/late month 4, I started talking to him when we were out and about, when we're at home, etc. because he would react to me and actually look at me when I was talking to him.
I have mommy guilt when I sometimes think about taking PTO then dropping off DS at daycare so I can go home and catch up on sleep.
We've been sleep training this week so it's not as bad.
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@rahlyrah: Don't feel guilty about that. I would too if I was a SAHM. We always have our TV on. We are lucky that R just doesn't have an interest in it. Or when she does we can usually distract her. If DH is watching a movie, I play with her, and we switch off.
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@Mrs. Taco: I was on mat leave for 6.5 months, and as much as I love DD and loved getting to spend all that time with her, at the end I was definitely ready to come back to work. 6 months was the perfect amount of time off for me.
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I feel guilty about raising my voice at DD. I'm working on it and it's getting better. I also feel like I don't play with her enough, because we're always busy going and doing something.
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@looch: Then it sounds like you made a great choice in returning to work! I am still enjoying being at home so far, but you get a few days thrown in there that stink. But that's the case with working, too!
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