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@jholler25: I hear that. I'm very much like that with my mom and MiL. My MiL has really filled the void in my life that my Gramma left when she passed away. My MiL listens without judgment and gives advice when asked. I don't know what I'd do without her

I really like my in-laws. My MIL is super-hostess-woman and this leads to a little discomfort since I am diabetic and have to watch what I eat. It's always "do you want this" "can I get you that" but now we have "when do you need to eat" and "which restaurant do you want to go do/can you eat at" but I know she means well. FIL is pretty quiet but has some great stories.
Both are really excited about our LO as she'll be their first grandbaby. They have given us clothes from when Hubs and his sister were babies, and even the mobiles that they used.

They talk about how December is the deadline for getting their house cleaned up (minor hoarders) since there will be a LO on the floor soon after.

I lucked out with great in-laws, they are wonderful people who are very caring. That being said after the wedding, I am finding it especially hard to connect with my MIL. We're just very different people in many ways, so I'm not really ever sure what to talk about. I feel fortunate to have them in my life but wish there was a better way for us to relate and build a stronger relationship.

My FIL and BIL I like a lot, as well as DH's extended family. My SIL - we're just different people. She's about 10 years younger than me, kind of directionless, not always very considerate, and the baby of the family.

My MIL...*sigh*. MIL drives me nutty a lot of the time. She was a single mom for a long time and depended on DH to do a lot around her house and wasn't super thrilled when he moved in with me. Up until right before the wedding she used to ask DH all the time if he was sure about marrying me :-S. She can also cause a lot of drama.

For example, the day before our wedding we had our rehearsal dinner which was very small, just wedding party and their SO's plus close family. As is traditional, at the RH dinner we gave our wedding party gifts as well as all the parents. Well, when I wasn't around she flipped out on DH and told him I was completely inappropriate for giving out gifts when I didn't give them to everyone.

The only people who didn't get gifts were my aunt (who was a late addition, plus we're close and she got into town early), and SIL and her BF. SIL would have gotten gifts if she hadn't dropped out of the wedding 2 weeks ahead of time. I had a whole bunch of stuff I couldn't even give her :-S. And we kept asking if she was really bring her BF because they were on the edge of breakup, and actually broke up that night and she still brought him to the wedding!

I was really pissed that she made DH feel bad and the day before the wedding and almost ruined the night for us.

Most of the time she's very nice in person. I just don't think I'll ever be close to her. She's even told DH she doesn't care if she has grandkids or not, so I doubt things will change after we have kids. Meanwhile, my mom would like die from happiness if I were to tell her I was pregnant. And she treats my brother's GF like she's her own daughter. I get kind of sad when I see it, because I know I'll never have a relationship like that with my MIL.

I seriously won the in-law jackpot. They are super wonderful and from the first time they met me, I was just one of their kids! They are also really thoughtful. For example, I was gone last weekend and they were visiting my SIL, who just started college in our city. When I got back, MIL had bought me a black maternity cardigan just because she wanted to do something for me and DH told me they asked what kind of diapers and other supplies we wanted because they would start buying some every time they went to the store so we wouldn't have to buy so many at one time.

Love!