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I had pipe dreams of magically having a great diet once I got pregnant... Turns out I wound up crazy sick and not only did I eat whatever I could keep down but my husband spent three months eating frozen meals. So my advice would be if there are any changes you want to make get those habits well established now.

Also. Build my wardrobe with some solid staple pieces. I was young and had a lot of cheap (cost and quality) items that were a bit trendier but I wish I had invested more in some staple pieces.

Definitely home stuff - decluttering, organizing, and spending some time with the decor.

I also wished we forced ourselves to go out more. We are both homebodies at heart and enjoy our nights in, but I wish we did more things because you get plenty of night's in post-baby!

WE should've just gone on groupon or something to come up with more creative date night ideas that you can't do with a kid - like a cooking class, pottery making, watch stand up comedy, indoor sky diving... just things outside the box beyond "dinner and a movie"!

@AmeliaBedilia: I wish I had lost some weight beforehand and just gotten into better shape. I'm slightly overweight and I'm so afraid of gaining too much and not being able to lose it. I'm walking as often as possible, but I wish I was a little trimmer/more toned to begin with!

Gotten in shape.

Traveled more

My DH and I traveled a lot while I was pregnant, but I kind of wish we had done a really big trip (South America! New Zealand! SE Asia!) before I had gotten pregnant.

Learning photography is a great goal! Decluttering is also a good idea since it's so hard to find the time/energy when you are pregnant or have LOs.

I crossed a major trip -- African safari -- off my bucket list before TTC.

Also, this wasn't explicitly linked to TTC, but right after I got married (a year before we started TTC), I changed jobs. My new job is much more flexible and allows me to work from home sometimes. As a result I am very comfortable with my current work/life balance. I don't think that would be the case if I was still in my old job.

I wish we did some renovations before TTC. Looking back, I was way too conservative with our finances and should have just gotten some projects out of the way when we had the time. I know a lot of people do renovations while TTC, but I always felt pregnant and was too paranoid to start painting/tearing things down while TTC - so even though it took us a while to get pregnant, I always had symptoms of pregnancy, so I never actually did major projects. When I finally got pregnant, I was way too tired and nauseous to want to major home renovations.

Stocked the freezer with tons of healthy meals for maternity leave and the first months back at work.

Gotten in really awesome shape physically!

Gone to a theme park! You can't go on rides whilst pregnant and once LO is here you just won't have the time. I really, really wanna go!!!!!

Finish DS' nursery. Now that he's getting more mobile, it's summer and DD is home, I have no time to devote to finishing it. Also, wish I had done up my thank you cards beforehand as well. Now I'm finding it difficult to finish those as well. Gah.

ETA: whoops! Mis-read the post, I thought it was before birth not pregnancy. I would have to say, wish I had worked out more before getting pregnant and been more in shape. Also wish we had organized our house more as it was a TON of work cleaning out DS' room when I was pregnant. Very thankful to have had a ton of help though.

Things I'm so thankful we did before pregnancy:
Bought our house
Both have very stable secure well paid careers
Got married
Had plenty of holidays and adventures as a couple
Had savings and set up savings accounts for the future

Things I wish we did before pregnancy:
Finished decorating the new house
Got drunk and partied on nights out together more
Went to a theme park more than once

Things which are pointless trying to complete before getting pregnant:
Being completely ready, noone is prepared for this step in life!

We had a surprise pregnancy. One that pertains to us but not necessarily everyone is that I wish we had waited until I was DONE with immigration. Not just immigration itself (which I finally have a green card, but will have to go through again in 2 years for a long term green card and again a year later if i want citizenship), but also with things like sorting my teacher certification in the US & getting a job, making the potential cross country move we will now potentially be making with a baby, buying our first house etc.

Life would be so much easier if all fo these were done.

Also, when I got my BFP, I had just gotten back into weight loss/ eating right and had lost 5 pounds. I had a plan to have a health BMI by the time I started TTC, and that flew squarely out the window.

I will also be about 75% of the way through my Masters when she gets here. I had planned to have that done as well!

We did a lot of travelling and lived overseas before I got pregnant, so have that out of our systems, but I wish we had spent a bit of time rebuilding financially after immigration so that we would have more options to travel with the baby.

In saying all of this though, I have PCOS and we weren't sure if pregnany was ever going to happen, so I am extremely grateful to be in this situation.