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I had to go to a bonfire cookout at a friend's party at 8 weeks, and we didn't want to tell anyone until 12 weeks pregnant. I knew that a few of my friends would be suspicious if I refused alcohol and hot dogs, so my husband actually filled beer bottles with apple juice (he home brews beer) and snuck it into the 6 pack we took to the party and I drank those - nobody suspected a thing! I also took a hot dog and swapped plates with him at some point.

At 10 weeks I had to go to a wedding. We had told our best friends, and they kept swapping out their empty champagne glass with mine during the night. Teamwork

@Corduroy: I'm curious what you told your SIL. I loaned a friend my maternity clothes and she's not due until Jan. I don't think I can wait that long to get them back. I will probably need them in November. This is her 2nd child, so she had some clothes of her own, just more in a different season...

The only lie I've had to tell so far is that I decided to cut back on caffeine randomly vs. due to pregnancy.

A friend asked on the first day I found out I was pregnant: "Did the IUI work this time?"

"Uh, no."

Turning down booze felt like a lie, but I had cut most of it out near the end of infertility treatments. I liked keeping it a secret with just my husband, but then I reached a point where it felt wrong to lie about our news.

I didn't do any fibbing. It felt weird to me to lie so if I was asked directly I'd be honest and say "yes, but it's still early so we're still being cautious." I didn't care much if people suspected. I didn't have to hide alcohol because I had just (two weeks before bfp) weaned DD1 so most folks were used to me barely drinking.
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I didn't really lie but I avoid. I haven't been talking to my parents much lately because I don't want it to slip. It's too deceitful to me to straight up lie regularly. People know I'm pregnant. I look it. Cat is out of the bag at 11 weeks (I've had two scans now, too)

Mostly it's a lot of "so how many kids do you have?" And I say "I have an 18 month old" without acknowledging this next May baby.

Pretty much everyone super close to me that I see often knew from the beginning I was pregnant so there wasn't any really difficult hiding. Mostly in social gatherings when it came to me not drinking I just said I was driving or had a head ache all day and didn't want any.

The most awkward time was before my DH's friends knew and one of his friends who can be really obnoxious when he is drinking would not let me use " I am driving" as an excuse at a wedding and kept trying to find someone else to drive us back to our hotel and handing me drinks all night. So annoying.

@oliviaoblivia: oh! cool

At 8 weeks I went to a wedding & just said I was on meds, which was true (progesterone suppositories) & had to be designated driver for DH too. I've also told other friends who knew we were going through infertility treatments that we were taking a break & just waiting to ovulate, hoping that cutting out alcohol would help get me pregnant without medical intervention. Other excuses were saying that my acupuncturist & nutritionist had told me not to drink. To explain my growing belly, I've explained that the doctor & nutritionist said I was too skinny, so I needed to gain 10 lbs.

I'll have to let you know?! I'm going to be around family this weekend and in another couple weekends again so this should be interesting. There's gonna be a post-funeral open bar somewhere. I'm gonna try and blame it on medication. A lot of people know about all our IF stuff so I'm waiting to be asked. I think I'll just lie and say it didn't work?

@LindsayInNY: maybe just say you are not in the mood? I think it's easier than fibbing.. But that's what I would do..

I lied that my soda water was a vodka soda and oi thought my friend believed me, but it turns out my bff was behind me at the time and made some sort of signal to drop it, haha. Stupid bartender put my water in a pint glass , vodka soda never comes in that big of a glass!

I'm really bad at lying and I'm not a great secret keeper. I can totally keep a secret, but the anxiety of it drives me crazy. I only got my bfp last week, but I've turned down alcohol at my MIL's dinner (but they knew we were ttc). I haven't been feeling well at work and have been asked outright if I'm pregnant and had to say no. I wanted to wait until 12 weeks to tell family, but I don't know if I can wait that long for even just co-workers. I'm with them so often, there are only about 15 of us in a small office, and we're all female, so it's going to be hard to hide! DH thinks it's unfair if co-workers know before family, so we'll see!

@LindsayInNY: it's oretty obvious something is up if I'm not having a drink....I picked up a glass bottle of root beer (brown bottle), and put it in a zip up coozie. Refilled it with water. Also, I would get soda water with lime at bars. I did use the "I've had a headache all day," line a few times, too.

Nobody ever asked me directly, and if they had their suspicions they were quiet. We told our closest friends early, thoug, and they are probably the most likely to be suspicious.

I definitely got called out on that this weekend. My tennis club had a fall festival / chili cookoff and I got called out by one of my tennis teammates about why I was drinking a Coke Zero instead of beer. She straight up asked me if I was knocked up. I lied and just said I wasn't in a beer mood but I don't know if she believed me.

@babycanuck: I can't specifically answer your question because DH is the one who flies for work every week, not me. But he works with plenty of women who have been pregnant / had kids and they all continued to fly twice a week, every week for their entire pregnancies.

@Corduroy: See above - you should be fine!

Normally I'm a foodie and love to sample wine and cocktails. So dinner plans with friends were difficult. I started by just putting off the drinks, "I'll have some in a little while." Then giving them to hubby. But it became a big problem when my severe MS set in. I couldn't eat a damn thing and the smells were setting me off. I ended up canceling plans a lot because I knew it was gonna be obvious (and miserable). Several friends ended up knowing before we officially announced because there was no other excuse for being sick all the time.