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We kept getting seriously nasty looks from an older couple in front of us in church on Easter Sunday because the baby (6 months) was making happy baby noises, and we weren't taking her out. Ironic b/c the church hands out kids' coloring sheets and crayons with a message on the back about how very welcome children are, and a reminder to non-parents that basically says in a nicer way "kids noise/wiggling is their God-given joy, and if you have a problem with it, you're the one with the issue, not the parents/kids".

My fault for not going to the "family" mass time, I guess, but it was 9 am - not crazy early or late or anything! Oh well!

@catlady: Same! I've been judged on breastfeeding past 6 months, extended rear-facing, and rigid schedules!

Although I was also judged for my kids' health issues and had it implied it was my fault they have allergies, asthma, and get sick a lot.

@Mrs. Turtle: WTF?! stealing babies... i can't even. sorry you had to deal with that ridiculousness. i agree with @wrkbrk: and file a complaint.

the one incident where i felt shamed was when my DD1 was playing in a obstacle course bounce house thing and had a run in with a younger toddler that probably shouldn't have been in there with the older kids and instead of the dad using a normal voice to ask DD1 to calm down or whatever (which i would have been fine with) he started freaking out on her/me and then again when they had a genuine accident while they were nicely playing together (like actually yelling, tell your kid to stop!). it was so awkward/uncomfortable and he was so full of himself that i was glad he was a stranger and not someone i ever had to see again.

Oh and for considering homeschooling.

My MIL will not STOP questioning our decision to have 3 ultrasounds this pregnancy (dating, 1st tri and anatomy) ... two weeks ago, she was HORRIFIED our LO (who is 3) was in the room with us when I had my anatomy scan.

Meanwhile, she chain smokes, and definitely never stopped drinking/smoking while she was pregnant. It's the oddest thing. She'll randomly text us to be sure we don't have any more scans scheduled, and to verify the length of each scan.

Other than that, I truly DGAF what other people think of my parenting, so maybe people do judge us ... but I don't notice or care at all.

@Jackiedavis87: Seriously! It's unreal. My LO was supplemented (probably 20% breast milk, 80% formula), and I couldn't believe what strangers and friends would say to me. Two friends were holding a can of our formula, reading it, and looked at me and said, "Is this even safe?!" ... I wanted to punch them in their faces. I'd be BFing in public and people would walk by and say things like, "You're a great mom for breastfeeding.", but no one ever said anything when I bottle fed. So, so weird.

@littlejoy: Man people are dumb I'm sorry

@littlejoy: I believe it is now! I am a teacher and they pull right on up smoking in parent pick up

@littlejoy: everyday! Now no I think the law was passed in Oc!

@wrkbrk: Yeah. I do know his name, because he happens to be the attorney for one of our kids in their case as well. The joys of living in a rural county. Problem is the source is totally unreliable, so it's possible it was never said at all. Personally, I think it was and I want him thrown off our kid's case. I've reported it to our agency and they have informed the county, so we will see what happens.

@birdofafeather: Thanks. Yeah, I'm still kind of in shock. I want to believe he didn't say it, but I truly think he did based on how he's handled our foster child's case so far.

@wrkbrk: It's so disappointing. I've been pleasantly surprised at our experience living in such a conservative, religious, rural area. Mostly people have been friendly and warm, despite our differences. This was such a shock. I'm certain he would not have made the same comment about a straight couple, as there are plenty of foster-adopt straight couples in this county who want to adopt a baby as well. And he happens to know who we are because I've been pestering him about meeting with us (at least once??!?) for our foster child's sake. And we show up to every hearing together. So I don't doubt that he said it.

@2PeasinaPod: I don't get the food shaming thing unless literally every meal is a disaster and the kids are obese and have health issues or something. My kids eat like a zillion times healthier and better rounded than DH and I ever did and I don't see why my kids can't have some treats - especially ones I loved as a kid.

Like, I give my kid Welch's fruit snacks bc I ate one of those Annie's bunnies and I was like "OMG WHAT IS THIS ABOMINATION BEFORE GOD?" If you're going to have a fruit snack, have a fruit snack, KWIM?

I got side eye this weekend from my father in law for letting my 5 yo run back to the cabin from the beach (no more than 500 m, but definitely out of sight) to go potty. I'm trying to give her some independence! But FiL is a notorious freak when it comes to kids' safety.

Bahhhh I just wanted to say I completely read this wrong! I thought it was things you shame....not that you've been shamed for!
I DO NOT smoke or curse with my kids......

@thepicklemonster: I was prepared to be shamed for formula feeding as well but no one ever said a thing to us. I don't think I even saw a weird glance. I was surprised and relieved!