I keep having this fear cross my mind. What if my baby and I don't bond or they are super difficult and I just can't take it? Please tell me this is a normal fear during a first pregnancy and I'm not crazy 
I feel super guilty for feeling this way!
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When I read the name if the thread, I was thinking it was like the answers on jeopardy, 'what is I don't like my baby' hehehe
I'm not pregnant yet, but last night DH & I had a long conversation about how I feel nervous that I won't like our first born or be able to connect with them because personality wise, I don't get a lot of other people's first borns (I'm a second born). He assured me that traits you can't stand in most people, you can overlook in your own. I can't say I know it for sure, because I haven't had that experience yet, but I can assure you you're not alone in your concern!
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I had the opposite. I kept daydreaming about how in love and how wonderful it would all be. When LO was born she was very colicky and I was in lots of pain so the first few weeks were very rocky. But I'm happy to report that those hard days melt away and my baby is the best thing ever!
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I'm with @Rubies. I thought having a baby was going to be all sunshine and rainbows. And then LO came and it was more like screaming and spitup. She had reflux
That didn't mean I didn't like her, I was so so so in love with her, but I didn't think I couldn handle being a SAHM. I thought seriously about going back to work. But I stuck it out and now life is good again, and I love being home with her every day. Being a parent is hard, but you get through it because you love your baby.
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I worried that I wouldn't know what to do with her and that she wouldn't bond with me. It was the exact opposite. As many struggles as we went through with feedings, I never felt the bond was lacking. I've adored her since the minute I saw her and she is easily soothed with me over anyone else. It's an amazing feeling. It's equally amazing that I never considered myself to be a nurturing type, then she was born.
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I'm due in 8 weeks and terrified I won't like her. I am excited one minute, then terrified the next. I can't help but think (when I'm especially tired, for instance), that I'll be so crabby and resentful toward her. I'm really, really hoping it won't be the case, but I think I'm stuck being worried until she arrives! I don't know how else to know it'll be okay without her arriving first.
you're not alone!
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You'll like your baby! Sometimes bonding is not immediate but it will happen.
My friend told me awhile back she was worried her baby would be all squished up and weird looking when he was born. And I think it's the same situation. I told her, "he will be! but you won't realize it." LOL when we have a new baby we are blinded to everyone else's perceptions!
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"What if my baby and I don't bond or they are super difficult and I just can't take it?"
I think for some moms it does take them a little bit to "bond" with their baby. But that's completely normal! And in all likely hood baby WILL be difficult and there will be moments where you can't take it! That's normal too! I think you'll be better off knowing that it will happen than thinking it won't.
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I've never liked kids, but I think MY kid is the cat's pajamas. I think you can't really help liking your kid. Mine's a toddler and he totally does stuff that used to annoy me when other kids did it around me, and I still think he's the best thing ever. (However- while I always LOVE him- it's definitely not like there aren't times when I don't LIKE him very much... he can still be a pain in the butt, or exhausting, or whatever, just like anyone else in my life that I love and see a lot)
We didn't bond right away- I was so tired and overwhelmed and wasn't really into my non-interactive, needy newborn, but once he started smiling and interacting he became my favorite person. You may be all sappy-smiley in love with your LO from the first minute, and that's awesome, but it's also totally ok if your kid is a month old and you're tearing your hair out because it's really hard raising a small human- I think we can all attest to the fact that it totally gets better and even if bonding doesn't happen ASAP, it'll just happen later and still be as awesome. -
I"m due in 9 weeks (holy cow single digits) and I have the biggest fear that those "motherly" instincts won't kick in like everyone says they do. I feel like I have them toward other kids, but fear I wont' always know what to do with my own...so weird!
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