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It got really real when I started feeling her move! Before that it was hard for me to connect.

Probably around 5 months or so

Similar to @sslm: around 20 weeks once we started to feel her move. It also hit me when we found out we were having a girl (made it feel more real). Once I passed the halfway point I realized I would be pregnant for less time than I already had been!

Not until I had an obvious bump/felt him move...around 5 months or so. Because of a previous m/c I didn't even try to feel connected, especially not in the first trimester.

Consistent movement and when we knew the sex.

I think it was once we knew the gender and I started feeling her move. Make it so more real.

I didn't feel super connected throughout my pregnancy. It was more real once we found out gender and baby could be a he, instead of an it... and then a little more once I could feel him move consistently, and then a little more after we picked out a name. It comes with time, I wouldn't be worried about it.

I was thinking about it all the time right from the get-go! I started to feel really connected, like it was REAL, when I could feel the baby move & I had a legit bump - so that took a while.

DH was excited & into it in the beginning, but it was hard to keep the enthusiasm up for such a long time. 10 months to be exact. It's a lot of time to talk about & anticipate something.

At the very end, like, the last few weeks, it was tough - it was ALL I could think about - like, totally consumed my every thought, the anticipation was just too much - and DH just wanted the baby to be here, he wasn't as connected in the end, and just wanted me to stop talking about the baby, the baby... so, he struggled a little. When I finally went into labor, it for real hit him that a baby was coming. i really don't know if he was in denial or what - but when I told him i was having contractions i could tell he was really "in it" and excited.

sorry - long rant - but it's an emotional rollercoaster.

I didn't feel a connection until I had a BIG round belly. DH was excited, but I don't think it really clicked for him until I went into labor.

Feeling movement was a huge deal.
I also feel like getting past the first trimester, and eventually starting to show, and basically just being at a point where you can TALK about it, and when people can tell by looking at you, makes a huge difference. It's easy to feel more connected when people know and are asking you about it and getting excited with you, and even more so when strangers notice you're pregnant and ask you about it.

@runnerd: My in-laws have always seemed WAAAAAAY more excited about us having children than we are! It's like we're doing this for them or something, haha. I feel so awkward around them sometimes because they just GUSH excitement! And Hubs' mom actually started CRYING when we told her we were pregnant! I didn't cry when I found out and haven't felt THAT emotional about it the entire time! Oh well!