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My husband was ready when Liam was like 4 months old and I was NOT. It took us a year to conceive Liam, though, so we knew we wanted to start trying earlier rather than later because we didn't know how long it would take and we did want kids close in age. We started trying when Liam was 14 months old, got pregnant right away, and the due date was 2 days before his 2nd birthday. Then, we lost the pregnancy at 9 weeks and have been TTC ever since (7 months and counting).

My siblings and I are far apart in age - 9 years in between me and my sister and four years in between me and my brother. I didn't want that for my kids. My 1st two will be 20 months apart and if we have a third, I don't want them to be more than 3 years apart. My DH and his siblings are all very close in age - 4 kids in 5-6 years and he loved it. I also wanted to get the baby part over with - I was 33 when I had my first so my age is a factor.

We always hoped to have our kids 2-3 years apart, but when we had trouble TTC and I was diagnosed with endometriosis, my doctor recommended that we have our kids close together - she said that AF would stay away while I was BFing and that we should just start TTC again when it returned... well, AF came back at 7 weeks pp, so that obviously wasn't happening. I stopped BCP at about 10 months pp because it wasn't helping my endo pain and I was ready to TTC again. Cycle #4 now and still trying... if I was KU this cycle, baby and DD would be 22 months apart. Ideally, I'd like a 22-28 month gap. We think we may want 3 kids and I am not getting any younger.

I always imagined having kids somewhat close in age. We also based our decision partly on my future work situation. I am a SAHM now but will most likely go back to work when kids are in school. Since they won't have a large gap, it will be more of a clear cut choice for when I should go back.

We had talked about a 2 year gap, but when my first LO was nearing his first birthday I had a really strong feeling that he needed a playmate. To be honest, being pregnant with a toddler was really, really hard, but now that the baby turned one, the kids are already playing together and it's so much fun. I don't feel the need to entertain them as much and overall it has made parenting more enjoyable for me.
Now I'm actually at an impasse, because we know we want another but I don't know when. Hopefully I will "just know" like last time.

We knew we wanted at least two years apart, but we would be fine if they were closer together. We didn't have any goals to meet before trying, so we just went with it. Overall, I think there's always a reason to go for it and always a reason to wait. I'm 13 weeks along with #2, and I question being ready some days! Sometimes you just have to decide and what will be will be.