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My BIL, who is a couple years younger, unmarried, no kids. It's not directly comments on my parenting but more parenting in general so I sort of take it personally- like after my kids have a fussy nice of eating, he'll talk about parents who spoiled their kids because they gave in and let them eat anything they wanted and if you just don't give them the options, they'll eat what you serve. Ok nice in theory but have you dealt personally with the wrath of a hangry toddler?

I had way more comments about breastfeeding my first daughter past a year than I expected, from mil, fil... this time they just know I'm a crazy breastfeeding lady and don't mention it.

This is not exactly the same but I took my son to the doctor a few weeks ago because he had a fever of 104 and she spent most of the visit giving me a hard time about him sucking his fingers. She told him she shouldn't do it, she told me I shouldn't let him, looks like he has a bad ear infection and strep throat do you have a plan for how to get him to stop? I was pretty annoyed, he's 3 and really sick so no, I'm not thinking about how to get him to stop ducking his fingers.

@catlady: actually my DH has made comments about the mspi diet- I never had to do it but we have a couple of friends who did, and he was like, god no, why would anyone do that, just give them formula! I shut him down on b half of mspi mamas everywhere.

@skipra: not to mention a lot of babies just won't take it. My one friend was totally happy to stop breastfeeding and do the formula, and her insurance even covered it, but her son would not take it, even a quarter of a bottle mixed with 3/4 breast milk.

@JennyD: DH's mom and step dad pull the lucky thing all the time and it drives me crazy. They have another grandchild who is only six months older than DD. The kids are very different, with regards to sleep, eating, manners, and really all interactions - I know part of that is simply personality but part is the parenting. We parent very differently and have from the very beginning. They constantly compare the kids and try to make us feel bad for having it "so easy." My in laws see us maybe 20 days out of the year and refuse to acknowledge how hard we have worked to parent the way we do. Yet they complain about the strict schedules, rules we enforce, and our expectations of DD. Everything about DD is because we're lucky. .

@catgirl: @Purpledaisy: yes! Yes exactly!!!

But such is life

DH I knew we would do things differently, but when I am the primary he is all over me. I make a point when he is primary just to do it his way/ say nothing. It's not reciprocated although I bring it up a lot.

Second to him would be my mom, which I find strange. She was a working mom and put me in home daycare and had a nanny for my brother. She is super judgy about LO being in a daycare center.

Ha my nephew. He hovers over me to be sure I'm caring for his cousin correctly. If I'm doing something he does not like he will tell on me. He's 7.

Also MIL calls us unreasonable, strict and uptight mostly over food/car seat (read safety) rules. I think we are pretty easygoing with our DD but she thrives with the way we run things and falls apart when she's out of her routine.

My dad also is a "let kids get dirty, we never needed TDap shot, who cares about tightening the carseat, why stick to your schedule" kind of grandpa and it's annoying as hell. I'm not overprotective by any stretch of the imagination and he's ON me about loosening up.
The 'expected' biggest critic is myself. I beat myself up over everything and really self-loathe sometimes.

Definitely my Dad. He was downright vile about many things a little over a year ago, as a result our relationship is mostly non-existent now. He was not a "good" father. I also pointed out to him as he went down his list of my misdoings in parenting that he had his opportunity to make mistakes raising me. I'm doing what I think is best and much like I'm sure he didn't want my grandparents telling him how to raise me, I'd appreciate he give me the same respect and courtesy.

We get a lot of praise about our kids, but then backhanded comments about things that we are doing "wrong". C'mon I'm not perfect, I can't do it all people.

@skipra: it is definitely trying at times. The other day DH had a strong suggestion about how I held LO in his glider at bed time. He noticed his head was on the arm rest like every other night. Apparently, the lumbar pillow and my arm weren't adequate support for his neck. He brought in a smooshy king sized pillow. All I could think was my God man how long have you been sitting on that critique? He lays that way all the time. Seriously though the baby was fine.

@Modern Daisy: my kid also wakes between 4-5. Nothing we do changes it. Sigh.

Certain friends who have made really flippant comments about our decision to have a home birth - I've ugly cried when I realized some friends think I'm an idiot (when in reality, the decision took a lot of research and thought).

Otherwise, we live a bit differently than our family, but none of them have ever expressed judgement or criticism. Wait - my MIL judged me for having 3 ultrasounds, even though she smoked during all 4 of her pregnancies.

@littlejoy: I hear you! For years I've been treated differently (like I'm too good for eneryone else) because I've made good choices.