Besides you and your SO, who else rubbed your belly? And was it welcome? 
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Women Co workers, and it was very unwelcome!
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@Springtime: Oooh, let me add coworkers!
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No one besides DH or I have rubbed my belly. That would be so weird. MIL made a couple hints about wanting to touch my stomach, but she would never just outright do it without an invitation (and I never invited). If I lived near my family, I suppose some of the women probably would have (mom, sis, cousin), and I wouldn't have minded them doing it.
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Mainly just DH and DD but I did have one of his cousins rub my belly, and while it wasn't 'technically' unwelcome it did come as a surprise
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It seems everyone wants to touch my belly (despite the fact that I am not a very touchy person). It is not welcome.
I actually said in the top 3 worst things about pregnancy thread that this was one of mine. I feel like a vessel for the baby, as opposed to a person who *might* feel that rubbing my belly like I'm Buddha is crossing a line.
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EVERYONE AND I HATE THEM ALL.
Okay, I don't really hate them all. But I like my personal space. Thank goodness my ILs are not touchy sort of people either, but I always had aunts and co-workers and strangers acting like I was public property. Ugh. My mom would always ask and was totally okay with being told no, which I appreciated. Since she was nice about it every now and then I would let her. And since she asked, she didn't get a snarky comment or me reaching out and touching her belly back. Yeah, I totally did that to other people.
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@Sofiel: Your description is probably better than mine. It's not really unwelcome, it just takes me aback. This is my first pregnancy and I suppose I'm not particularly used to strangers feeling the need to touch my stomach.
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@BakerBee: Yes, I agree! Whatever personal space I had disappeared when I was pregnant, at least on the in-laws side! They had no respect for my boundaries! It's the one thing I'm really dreading about being pregnant again!!
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My mom and aunt have touched my belly and slightly rubbed it, but not all the time. Women on DH's side have touched my belly as well. I didn't mind as they were all very gentle and didn't stay on long.
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@wonderstruck: OMG, you are my hero!!!! I have thought SOOOOOOOO many times of just rubbing someone's belly back when they rubbed mine, but I never had the guts to do it!!!!
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I guess I'm weird, I don't mind people touching my belly as long as they ask. And I don't mind if close friends and family just rub my belly, I get it, there's a baby in there and that's awesome!
Eta: my dad's ex girlfriend that I consider a second mom still comes up to me and gets down to kiss my belly and say hi to baby
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I'm kind of worried about this, because we're telling my DH's entire (immediate and extended) family on a vacation in two weeks, and even though I only have a little pooch right now, I just KNOW there's going to be touching. STEP AWAY FROM THE BELLY POOCH, PEOPLE.
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@cyndistar3: I probably wouldn't have minded so much if people actually asked, but no one ever did! My belly was apparently public property.
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Nobody; but I have a pretty fierce bitch face sometimes (and especially if someone moves into my personal space!)
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MIL, SIL, some friends and a few randoms.
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Just MIL. She also bent down and whispered to M in there...like he could hear that!
I stopped that quick.
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@Adira: Hahaha! I started off doing it to a few of my co-workers, because they knew touching my belly annoyed me and they did it anyways. And they're used to me kind of being a smartass. Then it just kind of spread from there. The typical response was usually the person recoiling, then laughing and telling me it's different because I have a baby in there, and me saying that they're touching me, not the baby, and sorry but I don't like it any more than they do! I should warn you though that sometimes women get mad and think you're calling them fat
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@Dandelion: How did you stop it???? I always try to be so cordial to my in-laws, so I don't know how to politely say "Bitch, stop touching me!"
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I'm not a super touchy person- hate massages, like my personal space, etc. but I really haven't minded this aspect of pregnancy. Friends/coworkers have always asked, fortunately, and as for family members? To me if you share DNA with this baby, it's totally fine for you to show an interest in her, especially the grandparents. She wouldn't be here if they hadn't had us, which for me grants them tummy rights I guess.
The couple times a stranger has touched my stomach without even asking definitely made my eye twitch though. -
@wonderstruck: Oh my gosh, I really hope I have the nerve to do it this time, because people rubbing my belly drove me CRAZY! And sometimes they would be all "What, is he sleeping?" and then poke at me to try to wake him up so he'd kick for them! I wanted to shout "LEAVE ME ALONE!!!"
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A few of my aunts and cousins did, but they asked first.
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@Adira: Yeah, it must be tougher for you since it's often your ILs - I don't think I would have the guts to do it to my MIL. I would probably just step back and say, "I'm sorry, I know everyone just wants to touch the baby, but baby can't feel it and honestly I just don't like having my belly touched!" I would hope they would respect that.
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@wonderstruck: I'll have to try to work up the courage to say that! That or "You know that's all just fat, right?" since they tend to rub when I BARELY even have a bump!
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I had a few friends who did but that didn't bother me. The only 2 people that bothered me were husbands of two different friends who should absolutely know better as their wives were either pregnant as well or had just given birth. And they both basically rubbed my belly when I first told them I was pregnant so there wasn't so much baby belly to touch as flabby belly.
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This makes me sound like a nutter, but I get really anxious about my personal space being invaded. EVERYONE touched my belly once, but no one ever did it twice because I always reacted in a way (unintentionally!) that made them stop. I'd always jump and be like "Oh my gosh, you startled me. I really don't like being touched!" It hurt a couple of people's feelings, but it was seriously just my knee jerk reaction. Don't touch me, bro!
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So far, just my SIL (I was OK with it, we rarely see her), and my cousin's MIL at a funeral before I was really even showing (SUPER awkward).
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Just strangers with my first pregnancy, oddly enough. I can't fathom touching someone's belly without permission so I can't imagine why anyone would think it was socially acceptable to do it to a stranger - but they did!
This time, no one, but my bump is a lot smaller!
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My dad (which was so sweet), mom, sisters, MIL, and one rando at the grocery store (http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/awkward-grocery-store-encounters-part-2). It happened far less than I was afraid it would, honestly. It was mostly just a one time thing for everyone but my mom.
I could have done without stalker lady, though
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I honestly don't care who touches my belly, as long as you're a close friend or a family member
I would prefer they ask first, but don't mind if they don't. I know it's just their way of trying to be close to the baby.Strangers, though, are a whole different story!! Since I'm still early and don't have too much of a bump, no one has tried yet, but I know that it would definitely creep me out (especially if they didn't ask first! WTF?!).
It seems so crazy to me that random strangers would do that, but so many of you have had that experience. Yikes!
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No one so far, thank goodness! But it's probably b/c I'm not that big yet.
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Um, I am 30 weeks tomorrow and everyone touches my belly. I am shocked that I don't mind as I really value my space but it really hasn't bothered me. Most people ask before they do it so I am prepared. I might even enjoy it a little bit. This is probably my only pregnancy so I am trying to enjoy every little bit of it
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I don't look all that preggo yet so no strangers have come up to me, thank goodness. But female coworkers have definitely rubbed the belly! I guess I don't mind them though because they are my friends and we're all nurses so eh... Kind of used to just touching people. Of a stranger did it though I would be weirded out. I did have a male patient poke my belly before and ask "Boy or girl?" but I wasn't pregnant yet
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I was on a tour today (I'm in Rome) and the most obnoxious woman in our tour group reached out and touched my belly and kept her hand there while asking how far along I was. I somehow maintained composure and was nice but as soon as I could get away I was a ranting lunatic to my husband. I seriously don't understand how people think this is OK! And she's not even the first stranger, just the most recent.
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my sister, mom, dad and a coworker or two. i offered.
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My mom and sister so far...
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A little old lady in Speedway rubbed it, and women from church did. So did my mom. It was very unwelcome because my skin was so thin and sensitive.
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I've had two pregnancies and no one ever touched me!
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I don't think anyone (besides DH) touched me without being invited. If she was kicking I would grab my mom or sister's hand so they could feel, but other than that I don't think anyone just jumped right in.
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My MIL did, without asking, and it really annoyed me. One of my friends did and it didn't bother me.
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