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Similar reasoning, pregnancy sucks, I don't do well with it- we've always planned on 3, but are seriously reconsidering. Not sure how I could chase around these two while pregnant again. I feel so outnumbered by them right now, it's going to be at least another year before we re-visit the idea of a third. We would also need to upgrade to a bigger house and a bigger car for a third kid. Another reason for waiting another year or so is we plan to pay for undergrad and don't want more than two in college at one time.

I am really starting to think about this too. I was sure I wanted 3 but now I'm starting to think we may be done. My older boy has always been very independent but my younger one is a real mama's boy and gets very jealous even when I'm holding or paying attention to his big brother. I can't say that he would be better off having another sibling vs staying the baby. I think I would be too old if I waited until he was ready. The other reason I think we might be done at 2 is three boys is crazy! I don't know if I could handle that!

With two they have each other if something happens to DH and I. Man to man defense is so much easier than zone defense.

2 feels right to us (although the second is still cooking). We definitely wanted our kids to have a sibling, so we knew only one wasn't for us. But more than two seems to make things a lot more complicated, just logistically. Like, most cars can fit two car seats. Trying to have three car seats in a car is a lot harder. You can sit at a regular four top at a restaurant. When you fly each parent can sit with one kid. Plus, now that I am experiencing the joys of being pregnant with a toddler, I just can't imagine doing it with two.

I definitely see the benefits of more than two- I grew up one of five and love having such a big family, but it just isn't the right thing for us. Luckily C has cousins pretty close in age so hopefully that makes up for it.

My head would explode if I had 3. For serious. I can barely keep myself sane as it is.

2 just seems right to us. We want DS to have someone to play with and for support later on. He has cousins close in age but it's hard to visit often when they live in different states. We just don't want them too far apart in age so they don't get along with each other (DH & BIL are 10 yrs apart so totally different stages when growing up)

For us, it's about logistics. We both WOH and I like the idea of one parent to one child. Plus, most houses around here are 3 bedroom, 2 bath, family tickets always come in 4.

We always knew we wanted two no matter what, but we wavered on a third. The biggest factor for us is the lack of time and energy. I can't imagine doing drop-offs, pick-ups, and taking into consideration the time carved out needed for activities while having both parents work full-time. I also don't want to go through pregnancy again and the thought of being pregnant while managing two others running around sounds really hard. I just feel like we'd be stretched too thin in a multitude of ways.

We have balance with two kids - they are great together as playmates and will (hopefully) always have each other so they have at least one other person who understands our family dynamics, our marriage is strong, and we feel like a team. When I see newborns I don't get that feeling of longing or desire, I just feel relief that we're past that stage....

I don't agree with the sentiment that "you will never regret having another, but you may one day regret the one you didn't have". Nobody on the other side of this is going to talk about their regret bc it's almost taboo to say you regret having a kid. But I did by chance talk to someone who regretted their third, saying that their first two were best buddies, and then the third came along... and suddenly their first was the odd one out. With more kids can come more fun and rambunctiousness, but it can also add complexity to relationships with the fighting, drama, and bickering. I already hate hearing my kids fight, I think I'd go bananas hearing it x3. Ultimately though, we just feel complete as a family of four.

2 kids fighting over my will when I'm dead instead of 3? I dunno, im still preg with no 2, not sure if 3 will ever be on the cards for me.

I just feel like 2 is wild enough, and 3 would take things to a level that I can't handle given our current life/jobs. 3 is just too messy. 2 is bananas but it's possible to keep life neat.

Plus, being pregnant is the last thing I ever have a desire to do again. I just CAN'T.

And I'm ready to look forward. After LO1, I knew we still had at least one more coming down the pipes and we kind of put life on hold while we grew our family. Now that I know we're done, it's nice to look forward to things as the girls get older. Buying a boat. Installing a pool...Things that we've hesitated doing because of knowing that we're going to have another baby or they will be super small for a long time.