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I voted other since we also didn't have a choice in the matter. Had any of my 4 miscarriages worked out, we would have had a child that was about a year and a half older than LO, and then 2 under 2. God had other plans for us, and so our boys will be 3 years apart almost to the day.
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Yeah, I didn't have a choice either. I wanted about two years, but after a year of trying and a diagnosis of DOR, we're on an IUI cycle. If it works, they'll be a little over 3 years apart.
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We wanted approx 2 years between them because that's the gap between us and our siblings so it felt right. We thought it would help them be closer, and for us would be easier because you don't totally get out of the swing of things in between. We started trying at the beginning of when that gap would be and got pregnant right away so LO1 turned 2 in June and I'm 3 days overdue with #2 so they will be almost exactly 2 years apart.
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@travellingbee: Yes, this - I wish we could pick, but now we will be two years past what I really wanted.
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@ElbieKay:
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@Adira: this is crazy, to think that if I'd want that age gap we gotta try next month!
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@snowjewelz: haha, maybe! I started trying around 9 months because that's when AF returned. I got pregnant when Xander was 13 months though, so it all depends on how quickly you get pregnant. Xander was also sleeping 9+ hours at night at the time, so it was a lot easier for me to be on board with baby #2 at that time than it might be for others.
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@BandDmommy: I thought that y'all decided you were done with 2?
We are waiting till early summer to TTC. Makes more sense with timing and finances.
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@Adira: totally true.. I keep saying I need to STTN for a while before trying for #2...
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Being pregnant really hurt my career, I'm in a relatively not mother-friendly industry. So we are planning a big gap, as in 4-5 years or more, to allow it to bounce back before I take a similar hit (which will hopefully be mitigated by gains I've made in the meantime).
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I wanted our next baby born next year between feb and April. We got pregnant and I was due in Feb but I miscarried. DS turns two in March. I just want them close together. And we want 3-4 so I don't want to wait long between babies. Hopefully I get pregnant again soon and stay pregnant.
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I voted age because it was the main factor that we stopped preventing so early. It took a year to conceive the first time around and we knew that if we had one we wanted at least two. We figured if it happened quickly then we would maybe have time to consider a third. The fact that I extended my maternity leave and got laid off was another major factor though. At the time we were NTNP and I was about to start a job search with the understanding that if I got a job before getting pregnant we would wait until I had been working at least a few months. Now we are considering our third but I want to wait a few more months before even thinking about it. We would wait longer but I have an age cut off for me where I would not be comfortable having another baby and it is fast approaching. So overall, age is the biggest factor for us.
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I voted other. Life got in the way. Originally we wanted to TTC when M was 10-12 months, but then I got a job offer that moved us back to my hometown. DH started a new job too, and neither of us felt comfortable TTC until we had been there for a while. So 2 under 2 went out the window pretty fast.
We started TTC when M was 18 months, so I thought, awesome, 2.5 years sounds good. Then it took a while to get pregnant, and when I did, I miscarried.
Now we'll be lucky to get a 3.5-4 year gap.
It's difficult for me to accept how far off track we have gotten. Best laid plans I guess.
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I SAH and whilst we originally planned to have 2 under 2, I just was not ready to start trying at that point. Realistically we are looking at more like a 2.5-3yr age gap.
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2.5 age gap. Its always been my ideal age gap...not too close and not too far apart. I wanted to focus the first year I just DD before trying again.
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I chose "Other." At first it was because I just had no real desire for another. We considered being one and done until the past few months, really. When people ask, I do joke: "I want to STTN 365 consecutive nights before we have another baby. Every time she wakes up the clock restarts."
Now I am SAH with her and want to enjoy about a year of just her & I. I'd like her to be in preschool before we have another one. Annnnd now I am planning a trip to Europe in the spring so we will likely TTC right after that! If we get pregnant right away we'll end up with a 3.5 year age gap.
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I voted preference, we wanted our kids close together. They are 22 mos apart and we would have started trying sooner except that I had an exam to take for work that was offered once a year and I had to travel for it - BFP on our first try with the second and I flew out there at 35 weeks (and passed! yay!). For the third we wanted closer age gap but tried 3-4 mos before the BFP, this one will once again be 22 mos after the second.
ETA: Both DH and I are now in our late 30's so that has contributed to our desire to have kids close together.
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@snowjewelz: thanks!
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One and done! So our gap is indefinite
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@ElbieKay: Sorry I just didn't know what to say but to send you some love! I def can relate to the never ending cycle of work/taking care of LO/being tired, etc!
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@Smurfette: D is sleeping through the night and B is starting preschool so makes me think I'll regret having a 3rd. Just not now. I was hesitant because my Ob scared the hell out of me on maternal age and risks. But my old boss is pregnant with twins at 40. If she can do that, I can have a baby at 37.
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@BandDmommy: don't let age scare you. I have a friend that had one at 42 and another 40.
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I want sibs to be close, to not have an AMA pregnancy, and to get the infant years done all at once -we hope for 2-2.5 year spacing.
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We're tentatively one and done, but would like a 3-4 year age gap if we decide to go for a second.
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