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I couldn't even watch the whole video because I was so annoyed with her! I'm sorry...but I can't feel bad for a woman who is begging her husband to take her to go get cigarettes. Considering her history, I think videotaping her was a good way to open her eyes to how immature she sounds/acts. Regardless if she was egged on / bullied, a grown woman should know that having a temper tantrum won't help her get her way!

It does seen like she had legitimate issues- like something in her brain or hormones that cause her to have such strongemotions she doesnt know how to cope with them, or severe anxiety. I think it was low for him to purposefully push her to the limit to get her to meltdown.

This is really sad. I think that's terrible that he posted it mainly because it seems like mentally something is going on with her.

I've had a panic attacks before and it has looked something like this (oddly enough, I've always been in a car when my anxiety/panic attacks took place) . It use to be something small that would set it off. It was never about the small issue but typically a ton of anxiety built up. Luckily, it never happens anymore but it's entirely frightening when it does so shame on him! If she is that moody though, I'm sure she would be hard to live with too.

It's really sad that videos like this probably don't even phase most people. It makes me sad that seeing such private things on the internet is the norm nowadays.

I'm happy that he's getting out of a marriage that he doesn't want to be in, but I don't see the need for airing his dirty laundry/wife's panic attack on the web. I mean, what's the point?

@pui: This.

@pui: @Reese: Ditto. We don't know what we don't know. But what I do know is that this guy is an asshat for posting this to the interwebs.

I wish I would've thought to do something like this when I was dealing with G's dad throwing tantrums about not getting his way! Maybe then others would've seen what I was dealing with & he would've seen how ridiculous he was... if nothing else others would've seen how ridiculous he was.

As for it just being a short video (well almost 4 minutes)..considering she didn't say anything about him having said/done something mean/out of anger & really just vocally focused on her not getting want she wanted (even affirmed that THAT was why she was mad) I could see that really being the real issues (not having something else propagate the tantrum before filming started).. Of course I've also personally dealt with someone that was like this so I may be a bit biased to its legitimacy.

From the article it looks like they're headed for divorce anyways so I don't really see the husband having done anything wrong... sounds more like he was fed up with dealing with her & it was his "I'm not dealing with this anymore" & sealing the deal moment.

@runsyellowlites: If he wanted to use this for something in his divorce proceedings, fine, I guess . . . BUT, to share this with the world . . . no. She has not had an opportunity to *defend* herself, so to speak. The reason to not post a video like this is the same reason that I don't cheat . . . sure I care about my DH, but let's assume for a second that I didn't . . . I wouldn't post it because I want to be able to look myself in the mirror everyday and know in my very core that I am a good person, and that I have respect for myself.

But I know what you mean . . . I had a looong-term ex who was incredibly explosive and cruel . . . but NEVER in public or in front of anyone else. When I ended it, everyone was baffled. So I understand how you feel when you say that maybe if your friends/family would have seen something like this that maybe then they would have understood.

@runsyellowlites: I guess the real draw of this lake are the bars nearby? lol She could have just drank less/waited to sober up before driving.

It was possible that the guy didn't understand the gravity of posting this online and how this could be affecting this women for years a years... long after their divorce is finalized. However, in the second article he says he doesn't regret it at all.

@runsyellowlites: Eh... I still don't really agree. My sister has borderline personality disorder and while to many she seems very normal she has major freak outs at least once a week. Many of these are directed at me and hurt me physically and emotionally. If people saw her acting like that they would definitely think she is out of control crazy. It would be pretty terrible of me to post a video of her acting like that online because I got pissed at her (which I do get).

We don't know anything really about this couple. She could be crazy, or she could have just been having a really bad day. She could have a mental instability. He could have been egging her on. We can't know and I don't think it's right for us to base our opinion on this woman on this short video. It's too bad that people will be doing just that for years and years to come thanks to her ex.

@MsLipGloss: ASSHAT!! Yes!

My DH saw this video a few days ago. He thinks its awesome and jokingly threatens to do this to me. But he wouldn't because I'm sure DH is scared of me.

@TheSwissWifeStyle: I agree that anytime I'm crazy, it's because DH caused it.

Ahh! I think the video itself was not a bad idea, because the woman clearly couldn't tell how crazy she was acting. Common. You aren't 4 years old, pull yourself together! However, posting the video online was unnecessary, and he looks like a douche for doing so.

Probably a good thing that they are getting a divorce... yikes.

I don't think he should have posted it online, but if my partner had been having meltdowns, tantrums, whatever you want to call it--I would totally record it to show him how he was acting. Obviously this couple has some issues and were headed for divorce.

She didn't say that she has any kind of condition or panic attack problem in her explanation. I think she looks ridiculous and if this is how she has acted in the past, well perhaps this will now open her eyes and she'll get some help on how to deal with her emotions. Because the way she acted was completely unacceptable and ridiculous, I don't care if he did promise to take her to the lake and then changed his mind. She's 30 not 3.

@mrsjazz: Hopefully she'll grow up from this and realize how ridiculous it is for an adult to act like that. To bad this video will haunt her for years and years to come no matter how she's learned from it.

@TheSwissWifeStyle: "Nothing will drive you nuts faster than being with a man who seems not to love you, not even to like you enough to want to hang out and do things with you." Totally agree with you.

This happened to me once with an ex-b/f. Well I didn't act like this girl in the video but I was acting really weird in that relationship and I knew I was being crazy too. It took me a few months to realize it was him, he was making me insecure and that was causing me to act cra cra. I finally had the strength to dump him and became sane again.

There was a How I Met Your Mother about the crazy girl and they also said... there are truely crazy girls but most crazy girls are because of the guy they are with.

This definitely shows me a couple that was not right for each other. Hopefully they can now take the steps to find a relationship that works well for both of them.

@sorrycharlie: Ugh I HATE when people say to "calm down." When I was having a lot of anxiety pp dh used to say "relax!" and it made me so mad. Luckily he stopped but I have no idea how "calm down" or "relax" is actually supposed to be productive.

Sorry for the threadjack!