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I don't plan on it, but I have not ruled it out!

Yep. I remember the times I got spanked and they taught me my lesson.

I rarely say never, especially with parenting, but nope never.

Being a pre-k teacher, clearly I can't spank the kids in my class, so we are creative when it comes to behavior management. Time-out can be a good tool for some kids, as well as positive behavior charts/rewards, and just having a conversation and explaining it in a way they can understand. DH is also a teacher (2nd grade) and schools now are really into positive behavior systems.

That being said, I think there are different things that work for different children. I was spanked, but it was only a handful of times when it was really something big. I definitely don't plan on doing it with my own kids, but something may change later, who knows.

I was spanked and it just made me really angry... I ended up focusing on my reaction/feelings, rather than feeling bad about whatever it was that I had done.

nope.

@Mrs. Pen: DH would laugh too!! His mom still talks about it.

I was spanked and always assumed I'd do the same but my daughter is sooooooooo sweet at 5.5 months that it's hard to imagine! I know...Just wait:)

We spank & I've used that as our primary source of discipline since DS was aware of simple rules & directions.

Here's our "breakdown" that I posted on another thread:

We spank for direct rebellion... ONLY! Not because we're frustrated or b/c DS is frustrated.. but only for breaking a house rule or deliberately not following instruction. We both do the spanking, but if DH is home then he fulfills the authoritative role as head of the house. For P, we pop her hand to ward off dangerous situations & when she's deliberately rebelling.

We have 3 house rules and have them posted in every room of the house and on the stairs. Because DS is fully aware of the rules and is constantly reminded of them by the posts, he does not get "warnings", but does get the occasional reminder to check the post on the wall.
Rules:
1. No arguing or talking back -
Because if you argue with me & cannot respect me then you will argue with your teachers or anyone else that may be an authority.
Now DH and I are very much so "explaining" kind of parents so we don't pull the "because I said so"... since we don't pull that and we always give explanation we do not accept arguing a point at all.
2. No throwing fits -
We don't throw fits when we don't get our way and neither will you. It's okay to be upset but there are other ways to express your issue
3. No lying -
We can help you with anything, but if you cannot be trusted then we cannot back you up.

Otherwise there really isn't much else that would/has come up that we've spanked for... I think DS directly going against me asking him to do something a couple of times, but not many.
When we do spank, we always tell him WHY he's getting a spanking and then talk it out after he get's it... I'm am absolutely against isolation so we don't spank & then leave him to "think about it"... rather we talk it out till he calms down, we hug, and we get back to the day.

We'll keep this same thing for P & our future kids, but will add
"No fighting with your siblings" to the list... because if you can't get along with your siblings you won't get along with your classmates, or later your co-workers

We seriously very rarely have to spank DS though and I don't think I can even remember the last time we did... maybe 4mths ago or so... I've never had problems with him at school and everyone has always raved about his behavior. It works for us and I've seen it work for the girls that come into our "home for women" that have dealt with all kinds of issues with the children.

I said yes, but I'm not sure if we actually will. Both of us were spanked, but not often. Like...it certainly wasn't the normal punishment. I can actually only remember being spanked once, although it may have happened more when I was young.

But I wouldn't totally take it off the table. i work with kids, and although we obviously don't do any kind of corporal punishment, I've seen a few kids that could probably use it, because the school will try everrrrry other method and nothing will work. Time outs, taking away things, extra work, counseling session, meetings with kid/parent/teacher, extra rewards, behavior chart....when you've tried all these and nothing sinks in to the kid...it makes an occasional swift spanking a lot more appealing.

There's a very good body of evidence accrued now to say that spanking is not effective and is demeaning. It's not part of our discipline plan.

We probably will at some point, but it will be rare. Our plan now is to discipline each child according to what works for them.

No, I don't want violence to be in any way condoned in my family. I wasn't spanked, and neither was my husband.

I strongly disagree with spanking. SO is pro spanking.
I feel like there are much more effective forms of discipline and that spanking is demeaning and makes a child angry.
Our LO is 5 mo though so we'll review once discipline is necessary.

@Mrs. Pen: omg.....you were spanked a lot!! Were you a bad kid?

We will spank occasionally....only for really big stuff. I remember i once lied to my parents about wearing my seat belt and drove in the car 2 hours without wearing it. When we got home and my parents found out, i got a spanking. Looking back, i can see why they did that.

Nope. Never worked for me and couldn't see myself doing it

We haven't ruled it out. Like many other previous posters we will not be making spanking a daily discipline method. It would be reserved for extreme situations and would never be hard enough to leave a mark... Just enough to send a message.

Absolutely.

Maybe, but only as a last resort when it is really, really warranted. I was spanked as a child and it definitely was effective for me. Most of the time, the threat od the soanking was more than enough to get me to stop what I was doing.

Im a huge believer in time outs, so that will probably be our primary method of discipline.