Just that. Would you consider having kids (whether you have one already or are just trying for your first) at 40 or older?
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If I hadn't been able to yet then yes. That's been my only real dream since I was old enough to even know, to be a mom.
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Yes.
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Well, considering that I'm having my first at 35....I chose the "it depends" option. If we choose to have more than one child, I'd like to be done by 40. Right now we only plan to have 2 at the most, so that should hopefully not be an issue (Hopefully!). If I were to get pregnant without trying at 40 or older, I would have the baby.
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I said no, but because I'm pregnant now with our first at 31. If I hadn't met and married Dh until later and 40 was the first time I had a chance to try, I'm just not sure. But in my current situation, no, I would have another one post 40.
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if i didn't have kids, then yes i would consider it. but i was done just before my 33rd birthday.
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Only if I hadn't been able to get pregnant until then, or we only had one child and desperately wanted another. I wouldn't consider getting pregnant over 41/42 though (just my personal feeling).
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If I didn't already have kids and was trying, yes, I think would still want one even after 40. If I already have at least 1, then no.
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Same as most... Only if I didn't have any children yet. Now that I have one healthy baby I want to be sure I'm done by 35.
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@BKCaribBaby: Me too!
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If I'm rich and bored!
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Depends...if we have zero or only one child at the time. My dad was 40 and my mom was 38, so I am comfortable being an older parent.
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I'd prefer not to, but I'd consider it based on the situation.
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Nope. I know myself to know if it hadn't happened by then, I'd get over it. But I wasn't someone who thought I absolutely had to have kids, either.
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I totally would! My parents had 6, the last one when they were 41 (a suprise!), and I think my parents were still thrilled.
People live longer, work longer, are active longer. My little sister is 26 now, and my mom is 66 and still teaching full time. She wants to continue working another school year after this one. Honestly, my mom is so energetic (works full time, goes to the gym every morning before work, takes horseriding lessons, goes hiking...she doesn't seem like an older mom at all (and she had me at 36).
So I guess it depends on the individual. I have friends with much younger parents who have way more health issues and aren't active at all. So they probably wouldn't have been good older parents.
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Maybe not because I'd be afraid of the higher risk of birth defects or not being able to carry to term. I'd totally adopt though!
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If I didn't have any kids yet I would consider it.
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I would if I didn't have any children by then. I had my first at 33 (a couple of weeks before my 34th birthday) and hopefully will have another at 36/37. I would like to be done before 40.
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Yep! I know several women that did. I will be 34 when I have our first. So #2 will be at 36 or 37, if we don't have issues. I would like to be done before 40 but you never know.
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Nope there's no way my body could handle it from a back injury. My health and energy was one of the reasons we started younger!
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I would say probably not. I want to be done by the time in 35, 37 if it takes longer & we continue to have problems conceiving. By the time I'm 30 if we still don't have children of our own we plan to start the adoption process. I want to adopt at least one child even if we have our own babies. That's a whole new thread though. Can you tell I've planned this out?
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Nope. I had my first at 37 and we are on the fence about #2. I've made it perfectly clear to my DH that I do not intend to be 40 and pregnant.
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I'm healthy and if I was able I would see no reason not to if that was what I wanted. Age is only a number. I don't feel old or tired, so why should I act like it's something out of the question.
I would manditorily screen early for chromosomal abnormalities though. Trisomy 18 is pretty nasty.
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I know many women who have had babies over 40. So yes!
And like pp said, I would do all the early screenings. -
Just having had my first at 37 (she is 16 weeks this week!), if we decide to have another baby, I would prefer to do it before I turn 40.
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No. If I had been trying and still couldn't get pregnant by 40 I would adopt.
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If life had turned out differently, sure.
As it is, I don't want my childbearing years to stretch from 24-40! I'd fully embrace any surprises that came my way, but still...I'd rather be concentrating on my oldest graduating HS at that point!
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I think so. Especially if I haven't had one by then.
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Probably - if I hadn't met my husband and gotten married when I did, then I would have considered it.
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I voted yes. It's not my preference but I had my first at 38 1/2 so if I want a second, the liklihood will be that it will come at 40 or later. Right now as much as my heart wants a second, I think we are holding steady at just the one.
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Not now, not on purpose, no. If I was still trying for my first, yes, probably. But now that I have one I wouldn't try to get pregnant at 40 or later.
Unless, like @mrs. wagon:, I'm rich and bored, lol.
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Yes, if it was my first and I was still trying or it was a second/third child after having my first in my thirties.
Right now, no, but that's mainly because I just had my first at 24.
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Heck no. Being pregnant at 32 was hard enough! I can't imagine doing it at 40
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I said yes. Ideally, it's not my first choice, but I will celebrate my 40th this year and we are TTC.
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I say no. right now I want to be done having kids by 35
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No. I don't want to be pregnant in 8+ years, it's hard enough at 32. And I wouldn't want to be 50 with a 10-year-old.
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@tbuzz: ah! Good luck TTC! Will this be your first?
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@mediagirl: Thanks, yes it will!
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I would have a child at 40 or after. I didn't get married until I was 36. We waited a year and the had IF trouble for 18 months so here I am pregnant at 39. We would like a second if everything works out, so I'd definitely be over 40 unless I stop at one. It might have been easier to have them young, but it wasn't in the cards.
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I said it depends. I would consider it, but for me personally it doesn't seem like a great idea.
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