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My husband is in grad school and its temporary, so its no big deal to me, as the spouse holding down the fort! I know it's good for him and our family and its temporary. He sees her plenty otherwise

Honestly, E seems pretty unphased. She seems to like her mommy nights just fine!

I'd definitely consider a job that requires travel during the week if the salary made it worth it to our family!

I personally wouldn't do it. My dad worked long hours when I was a really little kid and there were many nights we didn't see him. I still remember it and didn't like it, even though I understand he didn't have much choice in the matter. I just sold my business in October because I felt it took too much time away from my kids, but I realize that is not how everyone feels, and it's also a luxury to be able to choose that. I think it just depends on what your family needs from you, and how you feel about it. If it's really important to you to do this for your career- do it! Your DD knows you love her and will be just fine spending a little more time with her daddy.

I agree with @looch: If it's not forever, it's a short term thing for long term gain. A few months like this would be tough, but in the end, your LO could benefit greatly.

@teawithpaloma: 9 months is NOTHING in the big scheme of things!!!

For that short period, no question, yeah. My DH travels every week, so I couldn't do it cause then we would have no one to watch LO.

I agree with others, if just for 9 months, I would totally do it!

Yep! I would so do it since it's not permanent.

After reading your timeline, I would absolutely do this if it would better my family in the long run (which I'm assuming a doctorate program would.) It's not ideal, but it's doable for sure.

I flex my schedule and in order to work shorter days the rest of the week, I usually have one night where I try to work later, and as a result, don't get home until after my 15 month old is asleep. It's not my favorite thing, and do have mom guilt about it, but she enjoys her night with her dad and it allows me to see her more during the week, so it's a win for us.

@teawithpaloma: 9 months is such a small blip on the radar screen, so I would be fine with that...as you can see, I was thinking it would be even longer!

Good luck moving it forward!

No. There is no amount of money that would take me from my baby. But a lot of my "baby must be 5 feet from me at all times" problem comes from anxiety. I just couldn't do it!!

Sounds like a great opportunity. My DH has 24 hours so this is the norm for us.

I would do it!

@teawithpaloma: yes, unfortunately it's my life working and being a student. There were 2-3 days each week this past semester that my son was still sleeping when I left for work/school, and in bed when I got home.
Thankfully, like you, it's not permanent! It's a short term solution, and in the long run, it will work itself out. I spend extra time with him during semester breaks and while I know he misses me, I also know he is loved, and well taken care of. It doesn't get better than that.

I don't see LO 1-3 days/week depending on my schedule. It sucks but it helps to have a job I generally enjoy and $$ to enjoy life too. Most people in my field work similar hours. I get a lot of mommy guilt from " outside" people which sometimes bothers me but is manageable overall.