Hi all,

My SIL has been struggling with infertility for over a year. They've done 6 rounds of Clomid and 3 of IUI. Tomorrow is her last IUI before they move onto IVF.

During that year, she and I have been talking almost constantly since I started TTC shortly after she did. I got pregnant in June and then lost it at 8 weeks, which she knew about (we were away on vacation with them when I got my BFP). I'm almost 10 years older than her so we are both a bit nervous about our struggles.

I'm now 8 weeks pregnant again, and this time we haven't told anybody except our parents (and even then, only after seeing a h/b on an ultrasound).

Here's the tricky thing: she decided to come visit this weekend for the holiday to see us and my LO. I'm noticeably bloated since this is my 3rd pregnancy.

I'm just trying to be super, uber sensitive to her situation so I'm not sure how to handle her visit. I wouldn't have told any more family until after our cell-free DNA results come back in about a month.

Don't tell her and just avoid any questions she may have about us TTC?

Tell her over email this week so she can process it on her own?

Don't tell her this week but be honest if she asks??

(ETA: I put this in "family" instead of "infertility support" because I'm not sure where it should go....)